(Closed) Color for mother of bride/groom?

posted 9 years ago in Themes
Post # 3
4466 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I believe the traditional etiquette is that mother of the bride picks her color first, then tells mother of the groom what it is so that they don’t have the same or clashing colors.

I would not think that mother of the groom would want to wear the same color as the bridesmaids, but maybe I’m wrong…?

Post # 4
778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

Cobalt, what are the colors for your wedding?  has your mom chosen a dress yet?

I had a deep purple for my wedding, almost amythest.  My rule of thumb was keeping in the jewel tones.  My mom chose a very pretty blue/silver and my Mother-In-Law wore a teal.  Both wore satin.  It looked very lovely. 

Post # 5
309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Hotchild is right, MOB usually picks her dress first and then MOG follows MOB’s tone (formality, etc). My mom picked a floor length sapphire blue dress (my girls are wearing a light blue — think blue hydrangeas) and FI’s mom likes a floor length red/burgundy dress. FI’s mom was worried that the red wouldn’t go as well with the color scheme. No, it won’t look as nice as multiple shades of blue but the dress looks gorgeous on her (red is her color) and she’ll coordinate wonderfully with my mom’s dress. So yeah, as long as no one is in white, champagne, ivory, etc — I’m good to go!

Post # 6
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My mom wants to have a similar color, too.  She is big time matchy-matchy.  If my bridesmaid were to wear blue, she’d wear a baby blue color.  If they were to wear purple, she’d wear lilac.  She wants to be in the same color family.  I don’t think it’s a big deal.  If you don’t want them to be the exact same color, you can make suggestions to your Fiance with pictures you’ve seen in magazines.  Show him shades of the same color but not the exact same.

Post # 8
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I read elsehwere that etiquette states the MOB should choose before the MOG (which totally makes since b/c his mom refused to buy a dress w/o knowing my mom’s color, which i was always like, “dude just go buy it!”) and that the MOG should wear beige! Ew.

My mom wore red and his mom wore “lapis” which is a purply blue. Both very bright. I could care less what they wore. Our wedding colors were champagne and champagne pink.

Post # 9
87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

My FIs mom will wear an Indian sari — I have NO idea what color but am glad to let her do her own thing. We’re having a western beach wedding so I’m glad to have her represent her culture with her dress. I’m sure it will be beautiful.

Its MY mom I don’t trust… She wanted to rush out and buy a dress… She buys an outfit – calls me all excited and tells me its white! She insists its ‘off-white’… I told her my dress is off-white! I hadn’t even confirmed my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses yet so I just asked her to find something ‘champagne’. I don’t even know what she ended up buying but I’m trying to let it go.

Now we just found out that my brother is getting married the week before me. First thing she asks him is if she can wear white (assuming maybe I was just being a diva)! Of course they told her no. At least my brother’s local wedding will help keep her from trying to get her hands on details of my destination wedding. I love my mom but we have nothing in common…

Post # 10
2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Our colors are black and white with shades of Red. Both my Mom and my Future Mother-In-Law went for black. My FMIL’s dress is a black gown while my Mom chose a knee length multi-layered dress where it is a black, “tulley” kind of top layer with a white layer underneath. The dress has beading on the top and bottom with a black pleated sash (similar to mine). Cuter than my description.

You can see it on my blog:


Post # 11
774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

My mom asked me if she had to wear pink bc I guess traditionally MOB wears pink and MOG wears blue. Hoever, I’ve never heard that MOG has to match the bridesmaid dresses. I think MOB should choose first, but in our case, my mom doesn’t plan on looking for her dress until January in hopes of losing some weight so I’d hate for my Future Mother-In-Law to have to wait that long if she didn’t plan on it.

Post # 12
188 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

my colors were pink/black/silver.  my mom wore a plain pink dress and his mom wore a pink/black printer skirt and white tank with pink wrap… both fit in with the colors but weren’t the same as the BM’s.

Post # 13
2205 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

to help my mothers determine what color would coordinate best with the bridal party (but not match!) I sent them to david’s bridal’s website.  You pick the shades of your wedidng and it shows the shades of other colors that would compliment.


Post # 14
1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

My mother will be wearing pink, accented with black.  Definitely not one of the wedding colors, but it’s light and summery and makes her happy — so I’m happy!

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