Post # 1
My wedding colors are red and white. My wedding gown is white. I’m thinking of buying red shoes to match with theme as well as the bridemaids’ dresses. I want my bridesmaids to wear something cute in red. Unfortunately, both of them hate red. Would it be too weird for them to wear white as well? I’ve seen some pictures of bridemaids wearing white. However, I don’t know if it will be such a culture shock with the older Asian community. What are some good colors for my bridesmaids’ dresses so that the dresses won’t clash with the red and white theme?
Post # 3
I think it would be weird of them to wear white. Also, it’s your wedding, so they should suck it up and wear whatever color you want them to wear…
Adding another color in there won’t have too much cohesiveness, since that color won’t be incorporated anywhere else.
Post # 4
I would either add another color like a light blue or turquoise or black even and have their dresses be black and white. Your other option is to simply tell them they have to wear red dresses because those are your colors and that’s it. I honestly don’t understand bridesmaids who are picky about the dress. It’s your wedding and your preferences. As long as the dresses are not hidious, they should accept your choices.
Post # 6
i think red is such a strong dominant color, you need a softer one that will compliment it, versus compete with it.
I like red and peach or coral! A little unconventional, but I think it totally works!
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I hope this helps!
Post # 7
Thank you for your suggestions.
Post # 8
I dont know why everyone hate sit but my bridesmaids are going white as well. (mum doesnt approve but its MY wedding lol)
My sister has to suck it up though because they have pink sahes and she hates pink.
Post # 9
First, they should wear whatever dress you ask them to wear. Second, if you would like them to wear white, I think that would be fine. It’s a little unusual but it’s becoming more popular. And I wouldn’t worry about the whole “but they’ll compete with the bride” or “they’ll look like the bride” thing. You’ll be in the big fancy wedding gown. There will be no confusion. Third, I think white is actually the color you wear to funerals at many asian weddings (red is the bridal color) so if you’re wearing white then you’re throwing the tradition to the wind so don’t worry about it for your maids.
Post # 10
What about silver or gold? I wore a silver dress as a bridesmaid last year when the bride wore red.
Post # 11
What about having them wear white dresses, but adding a black velvet sash or some other detail to distinguish them from the bride? I think black would look very sharp with the white and red.
I also second the silver idea–silver dresses would be a beautiful alternative to white and read “neutral” while still being special and different.
Post # 13
Exactly… several girls wearing red color dress would be toooooooooo eye-catching.. lighter color bridesmaid dress would be more harmonious i think…. Best regards for you!!!
Post # 14
Thank you! I’m meeting up with my 2 bridesmaids this Saturday to finalize the color and stuff. This is very helpful.
Post # 15
I can’t advise as to the Asian community but I was sort of in the same position as you so I’ll share my line of thinking and what I ended up doing.
I had 7 bridesmaids, plus my sister and my husband’s two sisters. In my culture the mothers of the bride and groom, plus the siblings and sometimes cousins, close family, etc. all wear the color of the wedding. Sometimes the bride’s side will wear light blue and the groom’s side will wear dark bue so there’s a variation, you get the idea.
So at my wedding I had 7 bridesmaids and 3 sisters, and then his mom and my mom, who were going to be matching in the color scheme. I had really wanted something very ‘white,’ my color was basically ivory and that was it. I knew I wanted my family wearing ivory. However, I also had 7 bridesmaids and I actually thought that having 7 girls all wearing ivory was just a bit too much. Then on top of that, my husband’s mom said she really didn’t want to wear ivory because of her skin tone so I decided that the two moms should wear black and then just the 3 sisters in ivory. After that, I set about finding an accent color that was only found in the dresses for the bridesmaids (not seen anywhere else in the wedding). It was between a plum purple and navy and I chose navy. Nowhere in my wedding was there navy! Nowhere in my wedding was there black! But those colors were incorporated into the wedding with just the dresses. My flowers were ivory, my ceremony decor was ivory, the bows on the chair covers were gold, literally it was all neutrals and then dresses gave a pop of color (muted though it was).
So my point is that it’s possible that you can choose a different shade of red or an ivory to complement your dress (without it being the exact same color white) even if those colors aren’t appearing in the decor or florals. I can understand where the bridesmaids are coming from in not wanting to wear red, but perhaps there is a more muted shade that would be appropriate. And also if you do go with white, or ivory, or off-white, etc. I just wanted to say that I think it is lovely and gorgeous.
Post # 16
Would they be willing to wear red if they liked the style of the dress? My BMs wore red dresses, and I wore red shoes, and it looked great.