(Closed) Colored diamonds/gemstone engagement ring

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have a sapphire and it didn’t take much convincing to get my fiancee not to buy a diamond. However, my natural sapphire was not significantly less expensive than a diamond. Maybe just tell him exactly that, you wouldn’t be as happy with a traditional diamond as you would with something else. Hopefully when you find something you love he can love it too.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I had actually mentioned something about how I dislike white diamonds awhile before he proposed.

Apparently he remembered this… which started a long process of picking out a ring together.

He was fine with me wanting colored diamonds, but we didn’t really have the same style in what we liked other than that.

Eventually I found a ring that he really liked the style of, but had it with blue diamonds in the center bits.

Maybe if you find a similar version of this ring in white diamonds, see if he likes it, and then say ‘look, it’s the same, but aren’t these chocolate diamonds more interesting and unique?!’

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

First, I think the ring you want is absolutely gorgeous!! And it is very different!

However, because your SO feels so strongly about wanting to get you a traditional diamond, I think that you need to allow him to have some say in the choice of the ring.  (For the record, I picked out my own e-ring, wedding band, and loose diamond, because my Darling Husband knows that I am picky and did not want to take on the task of trying to select something for me.)  However, because your SO does have very strong feelings about this, and he is purchasing the ring for you, I think he should be comfortable with the decision.

Would you consider a ring that has a diamond center stone that has chocolate diamonds surrounding it? Or, would your SO consider buying you a beautiful blue or canary diamond so that your ring is less traditional?

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@cirk:  I really like that ring. Personally I LOVE yellow diamonds. They’re so gorgeous. I was seriously considering getting one for my e-ring, but I chickened out and am now considering a normal diamond. I guess when I considered it I realized that for my engagement ring it might be my only chance to have a big round diamond lol. I know that sounds silly but I guess I am pretty traditional and figure I can get a yellow diamond sometime in the future, and I’m ok with it not being my engagement ring.

Just tell him how much you adore the ring and that it’s YOU who will be wearing it. Show him some pics of celebrity colored diamond rings to show him that it’s not that weird to have a different kind of diamond. A lot of bees on here have yellow diamond e-rings so that could help too.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

He made me promise that I didn’t just want it because you could “get it at a candy store”. I told him it’s the stone of fidelity, it represents friendship, communication and true love. And it’s pretty. And it’s highly unlikely that anybody was tortured/murdered/enslaved to get it.

This is my simple 75pt blue topaz solitaire in sterling silver (because I’m odd and find gold feels weird) Sorry about the picture quality.

 

Have you taken him to see it in person or only the picture? Maybe a coloured diamond in a more traditional setting would make him feel like it looked more “engagement-ring-y”? For the record I think chocolate diamands are wicked awesome.

 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

He seems to be very worried about what people think. Try to make him see how if you get that brown diamond ring YOU will be its biggest fan! If anyone says “Oh that’s an odd thing to receive”, then tell him you’ll say that you chose it and you LOOOVE it!!” No one will think poorly of it because they will see the joy on your face.

 

You can’t fake excitement. Tell him that if you get a clear diamond you won’t really like it as much and it will show on your face. 

 

This will hopefully get him to open his eyes. Do NOT compromise – this is what YOU have to look at for the rest of your life! I’m still confused as to why men think they get a say in a gift for US, lol. Imagine saying to a friend “I’m buying you some chocolate for your birthday, but only this certain brand even though you don’t like it” 😀

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

You could put it to him this way… “Why on Earth would you want to spend so much money, only for me to not like it?”

I hope you get it resolved! That ring is GORGEOUS!

Post # 12
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389 posts
Helper bee

anything goes these days, so you definately needn’t be traditional.  i happen to love colored rings.  i think they are great!  so get it by a compromise.  get him a 60″ lcd for a wedding present and you get the ring with matching earrings!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’d say use the colored stone as sidestones, I love that look.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

or for realz, why not do chocolate diamond mellie and a white center, would be pretty

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