- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
I’m struggling with a problem, and as you’ve been such a great community with lots of helpful advice for my other couple of questions, I thought I’d ask for your opinions.
I’m having a dress dilema. We have enough for a nice wedding, but there’s really not much money left in the budget for my dress. Now that’s not a problem really, I’m sure with your help I can figure out a solution.
I don’t want to spend a huge amoubt, I understand why people do it, it’s (hopefully) a once in a lifetime thing and all that, and if I had a lot of extra cash I might just say to hell with and go nuts. But I don’t, and I can’t, and I couldn’t treally justify it to myself.
The other side of the problem is that it seems a shame to spend such a huge chunk of budget on a dress I’ll only wear once. Now I LOVE wedding dresses, and I REALLY want to look “bridal”, but I think that’s what I love about the dresses, the “well that’s obviously the bride” thing. Problem is, I don’t think I’ll actually look any good in them. I NEVER wear white, or cream, or blush or ivory, and with good reason. I’m white, like seriously, I’m a shade Alabaster in Bobbi Brown or Siberia in Nars. To top it off, thanks to my irish dad, I have natural Black hair, not brown, black. I’m called Snow White so often it bugs the hell out of me (although I can pull of a good red lip). So I can’t wear a normal wedfing dress, I want to look beautiful on my wedding day, but I’ll look ill ifI do. So I have am idea, to get a really nice dress, in a colour I look good in, my fiancé even suggested Black as that’s a colour that sets off my colouring and his fav on me. I’m thinking navy/midnight blue, but how do I look bridal. Obviously there’s the veil bit that’s not really enough. I’d probably take it off for the reception and I don’t want to look like everyone else in our pictures. So how do I look like a bride in a coloured dress? I wouldn’t wear a ball gown, I’d hate a meringue, I’m only 5ft 2 abs ix be swamped. I’m an hourglass (though I’d like to lose sine for the wedding, I’m paranoid my hips are too big for fitted dresses as they are 14 inches bigger than my waist). Any idea would be so, so, so appreciated, I think I’m working myself up into a state over, it I’ve actually had nightmares that its our wedding day and people are like well where’s the bride and I’m invisible!
TLDR – coloured, non bridey dress, how do I still look and feel like I’m obviously the bride (for photos and my own good feelings), I’ll have a veil but that doesn’t seem like enough?
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