Combining last names for kids but neither spouse changing name?

posted 2 years ago in Names
Post # 2
107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I think anything goes nowadays! It’s definitely not traditional but it’s common to be untraditional now. That being said, I never thought it would bother me to have a different last name than my children until I did. Different situation tho and we just had kids before marriage. Counting down to when we marry and I finally get the family name! 🙂 But again, there’s nothing wrong with any combination or picking one or the other. It’s just whatever they’re happy with. 

Post # 3
855 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

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sboom :  I really like this idea and wanted to do something like this too.

Post # 4
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

I think it’s totally fine for them each to keep their own names and have the kids have the combined name. 

Post # 5
3581 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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sboom :  My husband and I both changed our names. The legal process is a bit of a pain but is not that big a deal. We figured that in the grand scheme of things it will be worth it. And it has been!

Also, if there is enough time before their wedding, they need to just have him go through the legal process! That way the marriage license will show his new name, and she’ll be able to “take her husband’s name” without the court fees. 

DH and I both had to go through the process because we didn’t get around to changing them until our first anniversary. 

Post # 6
1471 posts
Bumble bee

They should do whatever they want to do!

Post # 7
7162 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

They can and should do whatever works best for them and their family. It sounds like their “mushed” name is already one that’s pretty commonly known amongst other friends and family so I don’t think there’s much issue.

I once heard of a woman who gave each of her children their own whole entire names- including last names. I thought it was wonderfully strange, and it also challenges the assumption of naming being a way to show who we “belong” to. 

Post # 8
316 posts
Helper bee

My husband has two last names: his father’s and mother’s. We plan to do the same thing if we have a child. I wouldn’t combine our last names into one surname though. However, if it works for your friends, then that’s what they should do.

Post # 9
915 posts
Busy bee

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sboom :  If they live in the US, then how they can name the baby would depend on the states different states have different rules. There was a post just the other day about how the mother could not give her child the name she wanted because “the hospital would not allow it.” However, from what I know, it boils down to the state rules and whomever is processing the birth certificate.

Post # 10
6393 posts
Bee Keeper

We didn’t do this, but do they have any issues on just naming their kids the husband’s last name?

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