Post # 1
My mom is hosting my shower and she feels that a come and go shower is the way to go. She says this is how EVERYONE does their showers these days?
Because no one has the time to come and spend at a shower and everyone hates them and so on and so forth. =/
I personally I have never been to anything like this and feel really jipped. But when I tried to explain how I felt about it she got very defensive and pulled out the why don’t I get any say line.
Well that doesn’t apply here because she is getting all the say I tried to have a little and she got mad.
And just to clarify I see a lot of talk on here about suprise showers and girls not having anything to do with their showers but no this is not that. I live two hours away and she is already asking when I can drive in to help her. Which is fine, but it’s not like she is doing this on her own and I should stay out of it.
But ultimately what on earth I don’t know how to feel about this. Anyone more familiar with this concept. I have no clue.
Post # 3
so people show up, say hi, drop off a gift and leave? is that a come and go party?
Post # 4
@eloping: best i can tell yes, they can stay as long as they want, and there is food, but there isn’t like a structured anything. they can leave whenever they want.
Post # 5
aww I don’t think I would like that :/ I would want the full on experience…I mean I could do without the games and such but having a specific time to be there and then do food/mingling/gifts is all the fun!
Post # 6
@ames12708: sounds like an even longer day than a set party between 1pm and 3pm…. are you suppose to keep your doors open all day for people to just wander in
tell you mother it sounds gift grabby – if i was you i would tell her to forget the whole thing but thats me
Post # 7
People from my church sometimes have “drop-in” showers
Post # 8
Personally, I hate that idea! I have been to literally hundreds of showers in my life and not one has been done this way. As a guest I wouldn’t really know wha I was supposed to do. Do I drop my gift and go? Hang out for a little bit? Stay for the whole thing? etc, etc.
Post # 9
Um, if everyone hates the so much, why even bother? that just seems reallly gift grabby.
you mom is wrong, people do like showers and it’s nice to have a set time so the bride’s family and friends can meet each other and spend some time together. maybe your mom doesn’t feel like having to plan any activities, or she is just burnt out on showers herself. but many people really like going to them.
Post # 10
I’ve never heard of anything like this… And I would definitely talk to your mom about it again!
Post # 11
I agree. I like going to showers and getting to spend some time with “the ladies”. I hate that I constantly hear how “everyone hates going to showers,” I really hope that anyone that came to mine wanted to be there. I’d hate to think that most people came out of obligation. If I ever felt obligated to go, I’d stay home.
Post # 13
I’ve never heard of this either.
Post # 14
Where I’m from, people do this for things like graduation. It’s called an “open house.”
It basically is the same thing as a party, with set hours (but several, like 1pm-5pm), food, music, gifts, etc. People just come when it’s convenient for them, but many stay for the entire event. There’s usually a full house for the duration.
It works because a lot of people have more than one obligation during grad season, so they can attend several in one day. That’s not really applicable to bridal showers, though.
I guess my point is this: if you’re really into things like party games and having everyone watch you open your gifts, this idea probably won’t work, but in general it’s not the worst thing. You’d likely still have lots of enthusiastic guests!
I’m not sure how I feel about calling it a “come-and-go,” though. Seems like you’re kicking people out, lol!
Post # 15
I went to a baby shower like this and it did not work as planned. It was set to be 4 hours and I arrived an hour into it. I love the games and gifts and other events of a shower and I felt like I missed out on everything showery. The gifts that people brought that had arrived before me were already open. I was there in time to see the cute cake before it was cut, but others who arrived after me missed this. Also, I ended up staying the rest of the time because I was having a good time and didn’t want to miss anyone or anything.
We do open house graduation parties here too. They work well because everyone doesnt watch gift opening and there are no structured events like games. I do not like the open house shower idea.