(Closed) Come on bees, how many of you have ‘MALE’ friends??

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

One of my very best friends is a guy. We talk almost daily… online, phone, text, etc. When he didn’t live in the same city I would even go see him (alone) and sleep on his couch. So I think we definitely qualify haha. Fiance never had an issue with it because I disclosed it very early in our relationship and introduced them online within weeks (couldn’t be in person bc we lived too far apart). They always got along really well, liked each other. When he moved to our city last year we all starting hanging out together more and he and Fiance became actual friends independent of my relationship with him, and he is now one of FI’s groomsman! 

I have also made friends with males since Fiance and I got together, although not quite to the same extent. Although I’d argue it isn’t so much my relationship with Fiance that changed the way I make friends now as the fact that I grew up. I don’t know I’ll ever be friends with someone in my mid-20s and beyond the way I am with people I have known for a decade+, grew up with, cried with, went through college with, etc. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I actually used to have some really good guy friends, even when I was dating my now-FI. We’re no longer friends for a long, dramatic reason that has nothing to do with jealousy or flirting or awkward chemistry or anything like that.

They guys were all really happy for me when I found Fiance, and I was really happy for them when they had girlfriends. I was closest to one guy in particular, and we would grab fast food sometimes together, but we wouldn’t go to nice restaurants and we would each pay for our own food.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Uhhh yea… one of my best friends is a dude. We were friends before I met Fiance and dating Fiance didn’t change that one bit! We chat online constantly and occassionally go out to dinner or bars together. Fiance is not threatened at all… and actually we have asked my friend to be a Groomsmen in our wedding!! 🙂 Also, Fiance is not into the bar scene like I am so he is happy that I have a friend who will go out with me so I’m not nagging him to go out.

On that note — my Fiance has nothing but female friends. One of my bridesmaid is actually a very, very close friend of mine that was friends with Fiance first! I’m good friends with all of his female friends and could care less if they talk on the phone, go out to dinner, etc. without me.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

My best friend (and the man who is marrying us) is a guy. We have been close since 6th grade. Male has no problem with it. They are actually good friends now, but I do hang out with him without my male around.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I have a good amount of guy friends. All of which I talk to on a regular basis and hang out with. My dh doesn’t care and a lot of them he has befriended as well, for a while he would be like will text so and so and see if they want to go fishing… lol. He’s really good and doesn’t care, plus one of my best guy friends is gay so he really mind that we have americas next top model and wine nights lol. I make sure to always have him meet my guy friends, before my guy friends and I go out and do something… more out of respect. It would seem pretty odd if one of his friends called him up and was liike I just saw X with some guy, and dh had no idea who he was lol.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

My best friend is a guy. He’s in the wedding. “Bridesman”. He is straight, only saying that because people always ask and not one time has my Fiance ever said anything about it.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have a lot of guy friends but one in particular that I’ve been friends with for an extremely long time. He is the only one I would go out with solo these days. He also has a long-time girlfriend and there are clear boundaries that we never cross. However, it is very rare that we would get together one-on-one. Usually, our SOs are also with us when we hang out.

Otherwise, out of respect for my SO, I wouldn’t go out one-on-one with any other guy. He does the same for me, and doesn’t go out one-on-one with any of his female friends, and he does have several.

Neither of us talk on the phone/text/etc. to any opposite sex friends on a regular basis.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

my best friend is a guy too. my number of guy friends FAR outweigh female friends.

Post # 11
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3575 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Most of my friends are men.  Don’t get me wrong, I have my girls, but I love hanging out with the guys.  It’s just more laid back, more fun.  And we email, chat, talk on the phone.  I love it.

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I have numerous male friends (some from before dating Darling Husband and some from after) and Darling Husband has numerous female friends (again from both before and after).  Some of his female friends he’s made since we started dating, I’ve never even met!  (DH travels for work every week).  And none of it bothers either of us at all.

I really don’t understand the whole thought process of “oh, now that I have an SO, I can’t be friends with other people of that same sex”.  Males and females can have completely platonic relationships with one another (despite what people try to claim).

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MsBlueberryBee: Good point — Fiance knows all of my friends and I know all of his. It would be totally weird if someone called up Fiance and was like I saw Tina with so-and-so and he was all whaaaat!? Also, when I’m having dinner with my dude friend I usually tell Fiance — oh I’ll be home late tonight I’m grabbing dinner with X.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

I really only have one guy friend who isn’t the husband/boyfriend of a girlfriend of mine. I worked with him and we still chat on a regular basis. I met him before SO and I were dating and the three of us have hung out a lot. I don’t know if I’ve ever hung out with him alone outside of lunch every day when we worked together. Generally if we hung out outside of work there were others involved as well. SO likes it when he’s around because then there’s another guy besides him. He’s usually out numbered or completely the only guy. Poor SO. The other guys I know who I’m friends with are mostly SO’s coworkers with whom I get along. I went to a college and work in an industry that’s pretty femaie heavy, so I just don’t have that many guys in my life.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I have three very close male friends. They came to my wedding, we go out to lunch (they work near me) and I am friendly with their wives, and they have become friendly with my husband. My husband has two really good female friends from his work that he goes to happy hour with or whatever, not to mention his high school ex who he still keeps in touch with.

As for phone calls, chats and the like-the only people I talk to on a regular baisis is my sister so I don’t know if that’s me or if as you get older things like phone calls just kind of taper off.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i’ve always had a lot of guy friends. most of them date back to high school or earlier, but i have a bunch of good guy friends from college/post-college too. maybe because i’m really into sports? Fiance has a bunch of female friends as well. i really never thought anything of it (and still don’t).

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