Post # 1
FH has gotten two rings, both are uncomfortable. He is a surgery resident, so he constantly is scrubbing in for surgery and can’t wear one then, and if he did, FH probably would have lost a dozen rings by now, so I don’t mind him not wearing a ring at work. He has tried each ring for over a month, and both were uncomfortable- especially when he is typing (he does a lot), and both rings ended up being a quarter size too big. We talked, and he says he likes the idea of wearing a ring so women don’t hit on him, but he finds both of them painful so has stopped wearing them. We agreed we would get the two rings sized, see how that works, and if that doesn’t, we would go to a jeweler and talk to them and see what they can do. He stated he is open to finding a ring but is overwhelmed with work stuff right now FH works about 90 hours a week when you count outside reading he has to do, and is trying to change fields, so he doesn’t have much free time and I know this isn’t a huge priority for him. Since I run a lot of his errands, I went to get his rings sized, and the jeweler was super honest with me and told me that the cost to size them would be about what the rings cost to buy, and to just get a new ring. I talked to FH about it, he said he would go when he had a week off work (which was supposed to be in two weeks) and then his vacation got denied, and he should have one next month, although we might be going out of town. I trust FH, but in the back of my head I hear what my aunt (who was in a very unhappy marriage) always said- that men who don’t wear wedding rings want women to think they’re single so they can play and that’s making me a little paranoid. I want him to make it more of a priority (like get it done within a week) without seeming controllong. Any suggestions? Or with his crazy work schedule and tons of stress on him career-wise, should I just deal until he has some time off?
Post # 3
I think you should wait until he has some time off so you can have him there to get the ring properly sized and find a style he likes. It sounds like he is under tons of pressure from work and maybe pushing this will only further stress him out and thus cause him to put it off more, boys *sigh*. I know lots of doctors/nurses here (although the rules maybe different there) who wear their rings on a chain. I am planning to get Fiance a chain with his ring as he is currently working with his hands and cannot wear a ring and his future career is much the same, EMT. So that could be something you can talk to the jeweler about.
Post # 4
I would wait until he has time off because they need his finger to measure for a ring. Are his rings the comfort fit kind? That’s why my husband has and it seems to be pretty comfortable for him.
Post # 5
I’d suggest trying on a “light” comfort fit. Fiance is fairly ring-averse (just never wore any type of jewelry so he is skeptical) but even he thinks this is tolerable. Because it’s “light” (vs. standard or heavy comfort fit), it’s lower profile meaning it doesn’t sit far off the hand. It also is lighter in terms of weight/how it feels. I think it makes the ring less cumbersome for someone not used to having something on their hand.
Post # 6
Thanks ladies. FH and I were discussing this week and since he was supposed to be off this week, it’s a little easier than usual. I told him I’d appreciate it if he could go get the ring taken care of. It had slipped his mind, and he was all, “I’ll try to get that done this week.” Hopefully the jeweler can find him something. Honestly, I don’t even care about price as long as he will wear it. Thanks for the ideas. If anyone else has an idea for a comfortable ring, I’d love to hear it.
Post # 7
Here in Arizona we have a store called Coffin & Trout. The shape of their rings ( kind of square on the bottom) are designed be be incredibly comfortable. I think if we didn’t get my Fiance a comfortable ring he would never wear it:).
Post # 8
We got Fiance a ring from Titanium Knights on Etsy that’s awesome. Granted, he hasn’t worn it every day yet, but it’s lightweight, the price is right (he’s a contractor so chances are he’ll lose it a dozen times since he’ll have to take it off for work), and we got a 6mm width band so it’s not really thick and bulky. We’re really happy with it!
Post # 9
I second the titanium ring thing. My Fiance was completely not interested in wearing rings, but he has loved wearing his titanium ring. It weighs practically nothing and mostly he forgets that he even has it on. One thing though is that titanium can’t be resized, so you’ve gotta make sure he knows his correct ring size before ordering. 🙂
Post # 10
I would do a domed comfort fit ring–FI and I both find them to be very comfortable.
We got ours from eweddingbands.com–they are platinum, which is heavy, mine is 3mm, FI’s if 5mm (which is wide enough to look like a guys ring but narrow enough to be comfortable).
Others have mentioned titanium, which would be nice and light. Here’s a link to that, but they do other metals as well, and they do quarter sizes, so you can get it to fit your Fiance.
Post # 11
He could ask his coworkers what type of wedding band they wear. But otherwise, wait until he has some time off so he can find something he likes. Thin sounds like it’d be the way to go. I notice a LOT of my doctors have ultra thin wedding bands, probably for this reason. And they always seem to have them off on the day they do surgeries. That’s perfectly normal I think.