- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I am sure everyone starts out planning (or starts out love, life, womanhood??) with a *dream* wedding in mind. Then reality sets in.
My dream wedding takes place outdoors, under the trees, with romantic lighting (be it chandeliers, fairy lights, candles…). There would be tons of DIY touches, a plethora of soft, romantic flowers, flowy fabrics, a light and airy feel. Delicious food with a variety of international cuisines. Signature cocktails. Vintage furniture. My parent’s house as the venue. Oh, and of course to be featured on Style Me Pretty. lol. I could go on. And to be honest, for quite a while, I thought that could really happen.
Needless to say, (as indicated by the title of the post) our wedding isn’t going that way. I hate tents. And everyone says you can’t have a wedding outdoors without a tent (at least not in NY in the spring/summer). If I need a tent I don’t want an outdoor wedding.
Also, I’m in grad school, work full time, and am planning on a very tight timeframe. There goes the “tons of DIY touches” (among many other of the more expensive stuff).
We’ve booked a BEAUTIFUL venue that is so far off of what I originally imagined. We are having our wedding at Giando on the Water which has gorgeous views of NYC (from Williamsburg Brooklyn) as it’s directly across the East River, right on the water (as the name implies.) Wall to wall windows make for a great view, and a Friday night wedding earns us plenty of sundown time to see city lights. My husband loves it, my parents are in awe, and I love it too. It’s just so far off of what I originally thought I’d have.
That said, I am trying to hold onto some of my original ideas, sticking with a dress idea that I love, still trying to romantify the flowers and lighting, etc.
No regrets here, as I’ve really come to terms with letting go of my dream wedding. I think that because all of the things I’ve outlined as requirements for my dream wedding are really “me” (ie. vintage furniture, diy projects, pretty colors and fabrics and textures, outdoor love, etc.) I can just incorporate those themes, decor, values, etc. into my daily life and call it even.
Anyone else have a similar experience?