Coming to terms with letting go of your *dream* wedding. Anyone else?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My dream wedding would have taken place at Disney World! Which might sound silly to some, but it’s my favorite place in the world, and a gorgeous intimate ceremony there with just our closest family anf friends, followed by a reception that involved a fireworks dessert party where we would have our own special area of the park with a great view sounds completely magical to me.

 

This actually would have been do-able with our budget. But when it came down to it I knew that many people we cared about wouldn’t have been able to afford the trip, and in the end that was more important to us. I got an awesome Disney honeymoon though, so that did help.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

@Wonderstruck:  They do offer discounts with the larger wedding packages. This is one of the reasons we decided to push back and do a larger wedding rather thana 20 person package.

 

As to this topic no I just pushed my wedding back to get what I wanted. The big stuff that was rediculously expensive I just figured didnt matter.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think a lot of brides on this board have had to let go of their “dream wedding”, myself included.

I didn’t give much thought to what I wanted until I was actually engaged.  My dream wedding would have been a destination wedding, saying our vows on the beach at sunset, very small and intimate.

Instead, we had a huge wedding at a church with a reception at a country club.  We had an absolutely fabulous day but sometimes I wish we would have done the intimate wedding on the beach.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@multinational:  I know this isn’t exactly the response you’re looking for, but I recently attended an evening wedding at Giando on the Water and it was a gorgeous affair.  Floor to ceiling windows overlooking the river and Brooklyn bridge…courteous waitstaff…very appealing ballroom…

Is there a way that you could utilize the outdoor patio area downstairs?  It’s right along the river and looked like a great area to host an indoor/outdoor wedding.  Just a thought!  Good luck!

Post # 9
Hostess
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I never had an exact dream wedding planned out, per say. I guess I always wanted a big fancy banquet hall wedding, and I’m not getting that, but I’m perfectly fine with it.

When we first got engaged, we set outselves on a small budget [everything to be under 6,000 – including e-ring and honeymoon]. 6,000 just wasn’t enough for our the honeymoon we would like, and the wedding we deserve. So now our budget is about 20,000. We decided that we would rather work our butts off and have what we want, vs. settle for less. We’re only getting married once!

So i guess, I had gave up my dreams, but then reclaimed them!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I wish we could have been married and had our reception at a barn.  Like a nice one lol But we really did not have time to even look at venues, we picked a hall in FIs hometown.  Other than that, and my DREAM dress, I am having everything I wanted 🙂 Which wasnt much! lol

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@multinational: As a PP said I think quite a few brides have this, that’s the one unfortunate thing about having a ‘dream’. I wanted a Marquee wedding but the cost and amount of organisation outweighed my dream. I did have a beautiful day though at a lovely venue which was very us.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

My dream wedding is to elope to a beach on a tropical island. Unfortunately,  fiance’s parents want a wedding so we are having a family wedding where I am doing very little of the planning since I didn’t want it I  the first place. I haven’t come to terms yet – I am still trying to convince him to elope.  Oh well…

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - The Skinner Barn

It seems like every day I have to get rid of an aspect that would make my “dream wedding”. First it was the photo booth (no big deal, right?), then the flower covered arch, then the wooden ceremony chairs, then the open bar, the sparkler exit, the antique furniture rentals (broke. my. heart), and the band. In the end it may not be my dream wedding, but it’s MY wedding. It’s the day I get to marry the man of my dreams. That should be all that counts….probably lol

Post # 13
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Newbee

 

multinational :  I know this is an old post but I feel this exact same way (It’s like I wrote you post lol) and I am having my wedding at Giandos!! I was wondering if you can share any tips on how you made it feel more romantic and less catering hall with the personal touches!

 

Pictures please!

 

Thank you!!!

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