- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I am curious about how many of you moved or will move away from your family after you get married? And how you deal with all of the emotions that come with that? I’m 21 and Fiance and I will be getting married in June of 2013, after we both graduate from college. FI has had a great summer internship in his home state ever since freshmen year. The company he interns for will most likely offer him a job after graduation. This means that right after we graduate from college, we will be moving to his hometown, which is about 18 hours away from where I grew up and where my parents live. Currently, the university I go to is 3 hours away from my parent’s house and so I am used to living apart from them but I am also used to being able to visit home around once a month. I actually found out yesterday that I got a summer internship with a comapny in FI’s hometown, so it looks like I will be living there this summer too. (We’ll be living with his parents at their house just for this summer)
It makes me really sad to think about how I won’t be living in the same city or state as my parents. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE the idenpendance I’ve found living away from them in college, but I still get emotional thinking about how they won’t be a 3 hour drive away anymore. I also have a 19 year old brother that I won’t get to see as much. Since I’ll only be 22 when I get married, I feel like it would be nice if my parents/brother were closer to me.
I’m lucky because my grandparents/aunts/uncles/cousins actually live in FI’s home state and only about an hour away from where we will be moving, so I do have some of my own family there that are supportive of me and that I can go visit. FI’s family lives there too and they are wonderful. But it’s just tough to know that I’ll be so far away from my parents. It’s not that I want to even live in the same city as my parents, because I don’t even live that close to them know, but being 18 hours away is very far.
Fiance keeps asking me if I want him to start looking for jobs in my hometown and I keep telling him that I don’t want him to do that because the job opportunity he will have at his company is awesome and it’s something he’s worked really hard for. He says that he doesn’t want to make me move somewhere where I won’t be happy and I tell him that I really do want to move there but it’s just hard to leave my family at the same time. I do love the city where we will move, it’s awesome. I know we will be very happy there and it’s an exciting adventure…but it’s still a difficult part of the transition from being single to married and I know I will miss being closer to my family. Fiance and I just got engaged two weeks ago, I’m 21 and I only have a year left of college so I feel like I just have a lot going on and it’s a little overwhelming.
Anyways, I just wanted to see if any of you had any similar experiences to share. 🙂