(Closed) Coming to WB for advice but….Rant

posted 6 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Two snaps and a twist. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Advice posts are made up of 98% people who have already made up their minds, and just want a bunch of strangers to support their decision, and 2% people who genuinely want guidance.

That’s why I am really selective about which ones I post to, and the more dramatic the dilemma, the more selective I am.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am a little bored of people asking for opinions when they don’t really want them. If you love your dress/makeup/invites/decor/ etc, don’t ask for opinions, just come on and gloat about it. People who don’t agree with your choices will stay away.

Or asking for advice when you want sympathy, just ask, we would be happy to support you, I am sure. Even if we don’t agree. We can all select which threads we want to comment on.

I like the honesty on the ‘bee and they have steered me indirectly and directly out of wrong decisions. Some has been misguided. It is not always easy to hear.  But, I chew the meat and spit the bones. Some people are too busy choking to get anything out of responses offered.

 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

PREACH PREACHA!!!  TexasSpringBride is definately “on one” today lol!

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@TexasSpringBride:  So just to recap: Are you looking for advice about these frustrating bee threads, or do you just want me to agree with you? Tongue Out

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Great post! I agree whole heartedly!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@TexasSpringBride:  Eh, it is frustrating when women don’t absorb what you’re saying to them because you inherently want what’s best for your fellow bee, but I find that it helps to keep in mind that denial is a part of the grief cycle, so on some level I know it’s seeping through. It may take some time for the light bulb to really go off, but at least it’s in black and white for the person to refer to later when they have a clearer head about them.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@TexasSpringBride:  Oh yeah, most definitely. If you see a problem BEFORE getting married, it goes without question. Mitigate that shit.

I was more speaking about the people that come sniffing out advice for a possible abuse scenario, or a cheating husband after many years of marriage. Some things really do come out of left field.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@TexasSpringBride:  

I love Mr. E a lot, but if Santa Claus came calling… I mean, elf slaves and all the cocoa you can drink. Rockin’ magical reindeer sled. Rubbing shoulders with the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy. That’s the kind of offer that makes a girl take a long hard look at her relationship and evaluate her options right there. 

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