(Closed) Commemorative marriage licenses- what's the scoop? Help with sensitive situation

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

How are the people marrying you licensed?  We had a friend marry us and she was licensed by one of those online churches.  I forget what it is called?  But as part of her license they sent her a packet that included information about how to do the ceremony and commemorative/decorative marriage license certificates.  I don’t think I would actually make up a fake thing though just for his sister to sign.  If you were doing an elaborate wedding and bridal party and she wasn’t included, that’s one thing, but you aren’t so maybe there is just no role for her.  Or, are you sure you couldn’t have her do a reading during the ceremony?  We had a friend of mine read a passage from a book about love. 

Post # 3
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Newbee

You NEED to check with your Recorder of Deeds, in most states they have very strict rules about who can officiate and what documentation is required to be recorded.   Our county actually provides the commemorative license for the bride and groom to keep and then the witnesses sign more of a “form” for filing purposes.  

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

If you’re not plannign to tell her that she’d be signing a “commemorative” license:  she may not realize you’re giving her a fake peice of paper to sign on your actual wedding day, but what if she applies for a marriage license of her own in the same county one day? Or attends another wedding there and notices the conspicuous absence of anyone signing anything? That has the potential to turn ugly really fast; if she’s already being high maintenance, she’s likely to pop an eyeball over having been given a decoy license.

If you’re planning on telling her, though, you could always just tell her that you’d like the copy with her sig and your brother’s anyway, even if the county doesn’t require it, because you want to frame it and keep it as a keepsake. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Why are you trying to bend over backward to please your future sister in law on YOUR wedding day? Why does she have to be involved in the ceremony? This is about you and your fiance. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Where I live you sign a legal document and also a commemorative certificate that you get to keep but which is purely decorative. As long as you get all the legal stuff done properly there’s no reason you can’t make up extra things just for you. I mean you can sit there and draw a cartoon if you want. If you actually want this commemorative one with your siblings signatures on it then by all means make one, but if you’re doing it purely to give your Future Sister-In-Law something to do it seems a bit forced. Can she just get ready with you and sit in the front row or something?

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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surprisebride :  you can make a fake one on your own if you want…but it seems really strange to try to make someone feel special by having them sign a fake document…seems really fake!

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