Post # 153
Great post! I have been to one wedding in my entire lifetime so this information has been super helpful!
I was debating on whether to do the “first look” or not and already have several reasons for doing the first look, but now I’m entirely convinced to do it because I agree with posters — it is super annoying waiting forever for the bride and groom to show up for the reception.
Post # 154
Forgot to add- Obtrusive Videographers– I’ve been to weddings where I couldn’t see the ceremony AT ALL because the videographer was parked right at the end of of the aisle with a giant tri-pod! I went to another wedding where the videographer wheeled his tri-pod around the dance floor. It was ridiculous, there was hardly enough room to dance and this guy was like wheeling up on my feet! These experiences made my decision not to hire a videographer pretty black and white for me!
Post # 155
Another one: make sure you have enough chairs, plates, forks etc and that you don’t keep your guests standing around for too long, or make them wait for their food. If you are doing a religious ceremony, make sure there are lots of ways for people to participate or else they will get bored. Also, make sure everyone can hear you during the ceremony and the speeches.
Post # 156
+1 We nixed the speeches all together, only my DH made a short speech at the end thanking everyone, etc.
Post # 156
I want to thank you all for your great input, I’m a wedding planner and actually I got inspired on this topic thanks to your comments. I wrote a blog post with the most common mistakes couples make at weddings and how to avoid them! I hope you enjoy it and please don’t forget to leave your comments on my blog.
Post # 156
– Not enough food or not having very many options. I’ve heard of the bride & groom only offering something like shrimp that some guests just can’t eat.
– Ceremony when it’s too hot or too cold.
– Outdoor reception with no backup plan [not even a tent]. I’ve seen a few brides on the bee who refuse to rent a tent, that just sounds like a disaster to me!
I agree with most of the other things on here about loud music, ect.
Post # 157
I agree with many of the ones that have been already mentioned but I will stress anything related to time management:
Long cocktail hour(s). Possible remedy add more sitting or let us into the reception room ( I am see that it’s all set up, so please let me in!)
Speeches that go on for years. I know there are lots of people who want to say wonderful things about the couple but set a limit and everyone else can put it in your card. I personally like it when they do it during the meal so at least if I get bored because I don’t know all the inside jokes I have some food to munch on.
Anything that’s supposed to start and end at a certain time. I can understand that some of it is out of the bride and grooms control (maybe the venue isn’t ready) but please be mindful of your guest.
I am half Italian so I have had the pleasure of attending and being in multiple weddings. The best weddings for me are the ones where wait times were limited. Once you get to the reception, they let you right in so you can get comfortable. Dinner starts almost on time, some short speeches during the courses (not, way after a course so you need to wait a long time until the next) and then the ability to dance the night away.
Just my 2 cents!
Post # 158
LONG boring speeches
Cash bars- Annoying when I get to a wedding that I don’t know will have a cash bar and don’t have any cash with me.
Post # 159
I totally agree with the bouquet toss. I went to a wedding of a church member’s right after we got engaged, and somehow I ended up forced to go up for the bouquet toss, because I was one of the youngest people there (the church members were both older, lovely people). But the old ladies all around me sat and badgered me until I got dragged up there. I was like – hello….for one, I don’t want to. For two, I’m engaged…not sure I’m supposed to be up there! 😛