Post # 1
I have heard so many stories on the bee about RSVP problems and I was just wondering what your experience was.
- We have not had anyone fill in extra guests on their RSVP card.
- We have not had anyone return the RSVP card without writing their name on it.
- We have actually not had to chase anyone down – my RSVP date was a few days ago and we have all of them back.
- We have not had anyone complain that our RSVP cards or invitations were ugly or tacky.
The only thing that did happen was that FI’s grandpa called FI’s mom to ask if he could bring a date (he’s not dating anyone). He wasn’t pushy about it, he was just wondering. The answer was no (we’re having a small wedding with no strangers!) and he was totally fine with that.
We also have two “maybes”, but those are both elderly men who have declining health and will have to see how they are doing closer to the date. We completely understand that and don’t consider it to be a problem (their wives are coming regardless).
We haven’t had the wedding yet, so who knows whether we will have “no shows” or “surprise guests”, but I’ll add them to the poll.
If there are any other common problems I’ve missed, please let me know and I’ll add them as well!
Post # 3
I haven’t sent out invites yet, but am bookmarking this so I can refer back to it. Good poll!!
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
We numbered the backs of our RSVP cards, so it didn’t matter when we got one back without a name. We had to call a few people who were tardy with their RSVPs, but it was no big deal and didn’t take that long. No one asked if they could bring a date or included an uninvited date, but my DH’s cousin at the last minute had trouble finding a sitter for his daughter and asked if she could come. We had to tell him no because we had jsut the day before finalized everything and made the last payment or we would’ve accommodated him since we had the space at that point. He ended up being able to bring her to the ceremony and take her to her mother’s after and come abck for the reception alone. Our only no-show was ill, but her husband came without her and sent her best wishes.
Post # 5
My sister randomly brought her then boyfriend, because he was “her ride.” It’s a three hour drive from her house to our wedding site. By that point….whatever. There was extra space at the table, it was a buffet dinner, I didn’t care. She offered to leave after the ceremony. Really – like I’d ask her to leave my reception?
Post # 6
@MadameTussaud: Well hopefully you won’t have a lot to vote on when you do come back!
@mrsSonthebeach: That’s not too bad, nice to hear. 🙂
@bluewolverine: Haha, that would have been very awkward!
There are a lot of votes for things that no one’s mentioned yet…feel free to chime in, voters!
Post # 7
We had to chase people down, requests to bring a date, last minute cancellations, and one no show. My favorite were the people who didn’t RSVP at all but family/friends promised they would go, only to have them cancel at the last minute. One guest managed to do all of the above and ask to bring a date – this person managed to hit nearly everything on the RSVP worry list!
Post # 8
First time around it was a nightmare. A block of invites never arrived and people were offended, so I had to call and tell my Aunt that her whole family was invited (and she didn’t answer so I had to leave an awkward message on their answering machine). We assumed in our budget that everyone who received an invite would bring a guest, whether they were listed on the invite or not (just hoped not everyone would take us up on it LOL), so that wasn’t really an issue. 2 single friends never sent the response cards back, Darling Husband1 had to chase them down and the day we needed the final count in they both said they’d be there with dates (actually it was ‘Yeah, I’ll find a date by then’). One showed up alone (and got a DUI on his way home), the other never showed up OR brought a date! So that, right there, was 3 meals we paid for and my Dad ended up bringing for lunch all week. 2 of his aunts RSVP’d their sons, because they were coming from out of town and had no one to watch them after we specifically drew the line at cousins! The younger one was 8 and lived 5 states away, I was totally fine with that, but the older one was 16 and had plenty of friends and didn’t live *that* far away. But we said ‘fine’ and then the 16 year old didn’t show up anyway. *sigh*
Post # 9
I got back an RSVP envelope…. with NOTHING in it! (So much for numbering the cards! I should have numbered the envelopes too!!)
Post # 10
@oracle: I was worried about that and the no name thing so I actually affixed return address labels on all my RSVP envelopes!
Post # 11
The thing that bothered me the most was people who added in their boyfriend/girlfriend/random date and then DIDNT BRING THEM! I had like 10 people less at the wedding than expected, which was mostly frustrating because they weren’t really invited in the first place and I let it go and paid anyway. Also the wedding looked kinda sparse with all those empty chairs.
Post # 12
We’re spending the week chasing people down, so I don’t even know yet about Yes rsvps skipping the wedding or Nos appearing without warning. Although, at this point, it wouldn’t surprise me.
Post # 13
I’m so happy to see your post! We are sending out our invitations tomorrow and I’m already anxious about all the possible issues you mentioned, so it is nice to see that you didn’t have any of those issues yourself! You must have very responsible, considerate friends and family 🙂
Post # 14
I got two back with names scratched out and re-written, all over the card, making it really difficult to read.
1 is completely illegible for the +1
I had someone RSVP both online and via mail, and the two don’t match up. (one is for 4 people, the other one is for 3).
Still missing about 6.
I followed up with one girl via e-mail, since the deadline has passed. Her reply was “I don’t know if I can make it yet, so I’m waiting until the last minute to RSVP”. ummmm… the deadline was last week, you’ve missed out on the “last minute” honey!
I’ve had 2 people RSVP with a +1, without providing the name of their date
Post # 15
I’ve had a few people forget to write their name on the rsvp… Also a few (29 rsvps) that missed the dead line for a response… Yesterday.
also my sister who was my maid of honor refused to come because her boyfriend is banned from any family events.
Post # 16
Wow… I chose pretty much everything on that list. Our Family is so rude! haha