Common Signs of Someone Who May Be Suicidal

posted 6 months ago in Wellness
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Thanks for this information 

Post # 3
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Busy bee

Every time we talk about things like this, we help end the stigma that still surrounds mental illness. It’s not a shameful secret, it’s a health crisis just as deserving of treatment, compassion, education and discussion as physical illnesses.

Post # 4
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Worker bee

Thank you for sharing this. We as a society have so many misconceptions about suicidal behavior (if someone seems “happy” they can’t be suicidal, right?). Can I ask, if you don’t mind, what motivated you to write a post like this? Feel free not to answer, I’m just curious, as you seem to have an impressive depth of understanding on the subject and this is a somewhat unusual place for a Public Service Announcement of this nature (not that we shouldn’t be talking about this kind of thing on here—we should be talking about it everywhere).

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Thank you so much for posting this. The more people talk about it, the more likely people who are suicidal will get the help they need.

My husband was diagnosed with PTSD a year ago. Just after our wedding,  he had a trigger due to his time helping as a volunteer as a first responder. It has been HELL but i feel like we are starting to see some light. 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

Thank you for posting this. I lost my closest friend from school 2 months ago to depression. None of us knew how bad it got. She posted three images of her kids on Facebook like headstones and then she was gone.

I miss her every day.

We all need to educate ourselves. Raising a child take a village but protecting them does too.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

I’m a pschologist and I think this is really important.

Especially for someone close to the suicidal person to whom they open up to. Always take it seriously, tell them that you don’t want them to die, because you care about them being here. And it’s also important to know that it is totally ok to tell the suicidal person that you don’t know what to say. Honesty is so much better than saying nothing at all or making a joke to “lighten” them up or to change the subject.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

Thank you for posting this. As a middle and high school teacher, working with people to recognize concerns and follow through on reports is always at the forefront of my mind. Also thank you for mentioning that you should straight up ask someone if they’re thinking about harming themselves. So many people say “you aren’t going to do anything crazy are you” but that just confirms to the person that they are “crazy” and no you cannot “put the idea in their head” I feel like that’s really important information to keep sharing so thank you.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

Can I ask you?

 

What do you do or what should you say if maybe you go about telling people how you’re feeling the wrong way and they call you melodramatic?

 

 

People tend to get triggered when talking about suicide, they think it’s selfish and a horrible thing to consider… what do I do when they act triggered? I don’t want to have these thoughts or feelings but sometimes you don’t really get a choice… but it helps me so much to talk about my thoughts… do I just need to find a better person to talk to?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

going2bmrsc :  Hey, Bee. First off, consider that you’ve said you’re thinking “the WRONG way,” and go from there. Yes, suicidal thoughts are seriously problematic, but they’re not “wrong.” That’s probably part of the point–if people think that it’s “wrong,” they’re less likely to open up about it, be heard, and get help. So we’ve got to stop thinking it’s wrong to feel hopelessness and helplessness, to feel pain. All it means is that we’re hurting, and it’s not wrong to hurt. 

I think you wrote the post about having extreme health issues that’ve kept you from living your fullest life? I wanted to comment because I also suffer from severe abdominable pains (for which I don’t yet know the cause and for which I’ll be having yet another procedure in 12 hours). I’ve dealt with all kinds of hogwash just being a person–but undiagnosed chronic physical pain is more suicidal-thought-triggering than pretty much anything else I’ve ever endured. Your experience is absolutely worse than mine, but I get it. I understand being in pain for 14 hours straight with no recourse whatsoever. Just laying in bed, writhing, sweating, crying and wimpering, alone… No doctor will prescribe pain meds strong enough because *fear* of addiction and because “this” medication should be enough. Yeah, sure, okay. 

Anyway. To answer your question, YES, you’re talking to the wrong people! Anyone with chronic pain issues needs to be talking to someone (most likely a trained therapist) who is capable of handling a person experiencing non-stop pain. Frankly, I can’t believe that anyone who knows your condition would ever suggest that you’re being melodramatic. You’re not. If your chronic pain were emotional, I’d say the same damn thing, by the way. As sassy said, you deserve to be heard. I’m so sorry that you might feel like no one can or is willing to hear you, Bee–but you’re NOT all alone in this. You have a life, you have loves, you have a world. There are people who will hear you. Your pain is NOT melodrama; your pain is real and it matters. I’m so sorry that no one will hear you right now. Please keep looking! Please keep fighting. <3 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

In line with the above, a common sign of depression is not caring about appearance or surroundings. If the person suddenly starts ordering their life – cleaning up, sorting out their belongings, tidying, throwing things out – it’s easy to think that they’re starting to care about themselves again. But it can very often mean that they are planning to leave everything in order. Suicide isn’t necessarily a sudden, anguished decision. Once the decision has been made, it can actually be a very calm time for the suicidal person, and part of that is “putting their affairs in order”.  Drowning, not waving. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee

sassy411 :  Thank  you for posting this. It has been very eye opening.

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