(Closed) Communicating the “No Kids” Message – via Website

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We put it on our website, AND we most obviously did not address the invites to the kids, AND we did the whole “Two seats have been reserved in your honor” thing. People still wrote their kids in. Best of luck to you 😉

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Just keep in mind that not everyone will look at the website.  We did online RSVP through our website and with some of the questions we got, it was clear that people didn’t read through all of the info, even the pages about travel arrangements.  For our at home reception, I’m sure a fair number of guests never went to the site.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You could just state that it is an “adults only reception”. People may assume that it is just a resort rule.

If they book for their kids also, then some hotels offer childcare that you can request on your arrival. 

When you send out your invites and get RSVPs back, email or call anyone who has listed more than just the adult couple and say “Just wanted to make sure that you knew the wedding and reception were adults only” in a cheery voice, as if you’re just there to help. 

Saying “no” to kids will undoubtedly offend some and some guests may not be able to attend due to not being able to line up some one to watch their kids while they’re on vacation… that said, it’s your wedding and it is common not to invite kids to weddings so people shouldn’t be shocked.  

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This is how we worded it on our website:

We look forward to celebrating with all of the special people in our lives, however, due to venue size and safety concerns, we will be hosting an adult only event. We thank you in advance for your understanding.

I would verbally spread the word though too since some people might not visit the website, or “overlook” that portion.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We created a page on our website entitled, “Details, Details” which lists a bunch of questions guests might ask (such as, “What time should I be there?” and “What should I wear?”). We addressed the kids issues like this:

Should We Bring the Kids?

This was a tough decision, but we’ve decided to keep the guest list to adults only. We hope you understand. The exception will be our nieces and nephews (NAMES LISTED), who have each been asked to play a special part in the day.

Invitations go out next week, so we’ll see if the message got across. 🙂

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

A friend of mine who is getting married next month put on her invitations, “We respectfully request that you leave the little ones at home.”  I thought that was a nice way of wording it.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Not trying to steal the original posters thread, but I am struggling with the same thing, with a bit of variance!

Due to space we are not inviting cousins on my side (adult, and child) however on my FI’s side (who are coming from Out of Town, 17 hour drive/or flight) we are inviting some of his family with kids (Ex, one will have just had a baby in March, we can’t expect them to come but not bring their newborn!) A cousin of FI’s absolutely adores Fiance, like idol-like and we can’t not include him -how do we cover our butts with some coming, most (like 90%) not?

We are doing hardcopy invites, with an online RSVP.

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