(Closed) Communication between female and male ….

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well, I’m not married yet, though I’ve been with my fiance for a long time so I guess I can think I count.  🙂

I think one of the things that has lead me to stay with my fiance/want to marry him is our ability to communicate well.  I tend to be the type to want to really talk things out and do a lot of verbal processing, and I don’t think I could really be connected with a partner if they weren’t able to keep up with that.  And I’m lucky that my fiance has been so good with verbal communication, and that we’re able to talk about things a lot of the time.

Interestingly enough, I tend to not be SO vocal with many of my female friends, though I think that’s mostly because I tend to be quiet unless I feel fully comfortable with somebody.  And I think I’m able to communicate well with my fiance because he’s the person I feel the most comfortable with.

So, I’m not sure if that’s quite the answer you were looking for, though that’s my experience.  

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think once I figured out a way to communicate effectively with Darling Husband things became a lot easier. He also learned to communicate with me, meaning, actually talking, lol! Not to say it’s all smooth sailing, but figuring out how we each communicate best or what makes the other shut down was important to learn and has helped us immensely. It’s an ongoing process though, that’s for sure!

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Sorry, in comparison to my girlfriends, yes it’s entirely different. My girlfriends are more sensitive, so I tend to sugar coat things for them at times. I also find I’m WAY more honest with Darling Husband about what I’m feeling or going through than with my girlfriends. I’m always worried about burdening people if I come to them to talk to them, but I know with Darling Husband I can be entirely honest with him and I can talk to him about whatever I want, whenever I want. I can be as geeky or silly or emotional as I want, and vice versa.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I was very lucky and was in a relationship class pretty close to the beginning of our relationship. It was amazing!

One thing they talked about was timing. Never bring up a topic when he is hungry, tired, or just off of work. So I started to ask when would be a good time to talk about a specific topic. I will say something like, “Hey can we talk about the camping trip soon, I’d like to talk about by the end of the week….” I feel better because it’s not all on me to remember to talk about it when the timing is good for him and when we do talk about it, we both give undivided attention. And he knows when something is important to me compared to all the little things that don’t really need this kind of attention. It works really well for us.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

OMG- what IS it with guys being hungry? My Fiance gets so incredibly grumpy when he’s hungry that it is ridiculous. Usually, now, if he does start getting cranky for no reason, I ask him point blank if he’s getting hungry and if he wants a sandwich. Hilariously enough, a lot of times the answer is actually yes! Lolz.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Reading this helped a lot … “The 5 Loves Languages” by Chapman

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

an oldie but goodie too Men are from Mars– its cliched’ because its all true

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Its all about understanding each other and knowing the best ways to communicate effectively and get your points across smoothly.

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