Post # 1
Just out of curiosity, has anyone had a Roman Catholic wedding outside of Mass where one party was not Catholic; but the ceremony still had Eucharist and the non-Catholic party just went up to receive the blessings only? (i.e. with their hands crossed over their chest.)
Is it doable?
I am asking because my Fiance is Catholic and though he does not mind a non-Eucharist ceremony, his family really wished they had that during the ceremony. And as for my family, I can always request them to go up to receive blessings. This way no one will feel ‘left out’. Right?
Post # 3
No but I did go to one where both Catholic bride and non-Catholic groom received Communion. I am still scratching my head over that one!
Post # 4
@MsJeep23: LOL!! Now that is funny!
Post # 5
Oh whoops I totally didn’t answer your question. Depends on what your church says. Mine doesn’t encourage Communion when one party isn’t Catholic cause half the church getting up to receive the Eucharist and half staying put looks divisive. But if they’re all getting up, with half receiving blessings…that could be OK.
But, I’m not well-versed on what the Catechism would say in this situation, so it’s probably best to ask your FI’s church what their policy is.
Post # 6
Yea isn’t that odd? I keep meaning to ask her how they pulled that off….
Post # 7
The priest who officiated our wedding had an all-or-nothing take on communion. Either we had the full mass, with communion available to anyone who might want it, or we didn’t have communion at the ceremony at all. I don’t think they will do communion without the mass. He mentioned that in couples where only one partner is Catholic he recommends not doing communion because having only one spouse take it looks dis-unitive. I don’t think it’s a hard and fast rule, though.
Maybe your fiance can talk with his parents to say that the marriage is no less valid if there’s no mass at the wedding? Also, if you’re getting married on a Saturday, you could possibly all attend church together Sunday morning as a way of appeasing his family’s wishes.
Post # 8
The church does not allow it unless there is a full mass, now with that said, very good friends of mine got someone to do it. So there’s ways.
Post # 9
Very possible to have done – but don’t think its necessary. Even if you’re noncatholic, you know what communion is. And for those who don’t receive it, then they just pray and sing in the meantime.
If you want them to have the option of being blessed, then I would look around. But, if you’re just worried about your family, why don’t you talk to your parents/grandparents about it and see if it really bothers them?
worth a shot! 🙂
Post # 10
If you had communion, it would be a mass. Churches do not have communion service (which is basically a mass, but the consecration is not performed, but the Eucharist is still given out) unless there is a grave reason to do so, such as it is Good Friday or no priest is available.
A Catholic and a non-Catholic are allowed to have a wedding mass, however, it is strongly discouraged. Marriage and communion are both signs of unity, so your first act as a married couple shouldn’t be a sign of disunity. However, if there are good reasons for you and your fiance to want a mass, a priest might allow it. But since it doesn’t sound like it is important to your fiance, I would just have a wedding outside of a mass.
A wedding without a mass is just as valid and beautiful, and many guests might appreciate that it is shorter as well. Normally other “unity” traditions such as a unity candle or laying flowers at Mary’s feet are discouraged because they aren’t part of the Catholic rite, but doing something like that might be a way to appease his family?
Post # 11
@Sasha2011: A Catholic and a baptized non-Catholic can have a Nuptial Mass with communion. A Catholic and a non-baptized person cannot have a Nuptial Mass.
Anytime communion is given it is the confines of a Mass. The only exception is that a deacon can offer a communion service (a Mass without consecration) but only if a priest is not available for a holy day of obligation (like a Sunday). If a priest is available, this is not allowed and if the Mass is not required (for example, for a wedding), a communion service is not allowed.
@MsJeep23: A non-Catholic may accept communion in a Catholic church if it is specifically authorized by a bishop. I have seen cases where non-Catholics will make an appeal to a bishop and a bishop will approve that person to receive communion for a special event (such as a wedding) so long as they recognize that the Eucharist is the Body of Christ.
@mwitter80: There are ways to have Eucharist offered outside of Mass for a wedding. However, I don’t think that there are an licit (i.e. legal) ways to do it.