(Closed) Community Vow of Support – “We Do”

posted 9 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
118 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I wrote some for a wedding last year:

Guest Vows: This is one of my favorite rituals. Immediately after the couple does their “I do’s” or their vows, I’ll address everyone gathered directly, and ask them to pledge their own love and support for the bride and groom in their marriage. The wording is usually slightly different than the traditional vows:

Today, you have come here not simply to witness our couple’s union, but to take part in it. Each of you represents not only yourself, but all of the people who have and will touch the lives of our bride and groom. Your support has helped their relationship to flourish, and the joy that you all bring into the couple’s lives keeps them going. Our bride and groom have asked all present to take vows as well, to pledge your support and love for them as they embark upon this new path together. After I have spoken these vows, please answer with “We will.”

Everyone gathered here today, before you stand two people who love you very much. Do you promise to encourage and inspire their dreams? To accept them not only as individuals, but as a couple? To be their friends and their support, today and everyday to follow?

And then they all answer with a resounding “We Will!”

Post # 4
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Our traditional Episcopal full mass had the following wording directly after the vows Husband and I said to each other:

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The Celebrant then addresses the congregation, saying

Will all of you witnessing these promises do all in your power to uphold these two persons in their marriage?

People: We will.

 On the day of the wedding it was actually elaborated on a bit more with the sort of thing I think you are looking for.  Our priest said something like, "As they make these vows to each other, it is important to also recognize the important role that loved ones hold in a marriage.  Each of you here today have been invited because you are important and loved by the bride and groom, and together make up their community"

It was a wonderful moment in our wedding, hearing everyone support us.  Hope this helps!


Post # 5
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

This is what ours said…I think I got it from the Wedding Ceremony Planner book. 

Collectively, you represent the families, friends, and traditions that have brought Andrea and Taylor to this point in their lives.  Please affirm your support for this marriage by responding, "Yes, I do" to the following question: As a part of the community that surrounds Andrea and Taylor, do you offer your love and support to strengthen their marriage and bless this family created by their union?  Guests – Yes, I do.  

Post # 6
2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I based ours on Mrs. Cherry Pie’s. Here they are:

"Mr. and Miss Bunny would like to ask you, their family and friends,
to support them in keeping the vows
they make to each other today.
They ask you to uphold them in loving each other,
Stand beside them,
Offer them your encouragement and your love,
Listen to them when they ask for advice,
And pray that they will grow closer to God and to each other.
In these ways you can honor this marriage
Into which they have come to be joined today
Do you offer your love and support
To strengthen their marriage
And bless this family created by their union?
Please answer by saying : WE DO
Guests: WE DO"

Post # 7
548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

There’s a vow like that in the UCC Bok of Worship… I don’t have it on me, but I’ll see if I can track down a copy.

Post # 8
250 posts
Helper bee

This is what we are doing:

To the Families, the marriage of Melissa and Christopher unites their families and creates a new one. They ask for your blessing.

Respond: We love you both. We bless your marriage. Together we will be family.

And to all gathered here today, will you, by God’s grace, do everything within your power to uphold and care for Melissa and Christopher in their marriage.

Respond: We will.

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