- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
My diamond is a hot mess. It is riddled with inclusions, chipped, and the cut is old fashioned.
We recently had it reset in a setting that DH chose, and I could not possibly be happier with it. I could not care less what alphabet numbers or letters apply to it, or anything else about it, except that it was given from a heart full of love and generosity of spirit to a heart full of joy, filled to the brim with the promise of life with a wonderful man.
I always feel SO sorry for brides who have not been given or who have not received their rings in this spirit. The size, weight, clarity, cut, style, surprise? if the giver is a good man, it’s all just fluff.
I honestly didn’t even know what the specs were for my center stone until my curiosity got to me because of the Bee. I saw sooo many posts detailing all these exact measurements on their stones, so I looked at the insurance paper that Fiance had me save. To me, those numbers and letters don’t mean a whole lot. When I looked up all of them, and made the mistake of comparing them to some I’ve seen on the Bee, I was a little surprised. And then the worrying over if someone would judge me for it started….and then I thought a bit more about it. No one, ever, is going to actually know what the specs on my stone are. Hell, Fiance doesn’t remember them. No one ever is going to take my stone and compare it to something else – and if they do, for one I don’t know why they’d have my ring, and for two I probably don’t need their opinion nor their friendship. My ring is beautiful, and it’s perfect to me.
Your ring is a gorgeous ring. I can’t see near any yellow tint to it, except for the picture where it looks like the lighting is giving it a yellowish hint. Your stone looks like someone purified a whole bunch of sparkle and condensed it into one stone! Just beautiful. 🙂
Why do you care? I am so confused by this post. It seems like you went to jeweler looking for things to be unhappy about with your ring. If you liked it before, why the heck does it matter what the specs are?
-I have an AGS000 round brilliant diamond and the sucker blows every diamond out of the water…even the ones under jewelry store lighting. It has incredible fire and brilliance. If you are looking for precision cut and performance AGS princess is the way to go.
EGL is notoriously bad at grading, usually the specs are way off. 🙁 I think if you are unable to return it or recoup money, i would try to be happy and love it for all the reasons you loved it before you went window shopping. Also if you purchase again, only stick with GIA or AGS graded diamonds.
Keep your ring clean, stay out of the jewelry stores and off the diamond websites for awhile. Hopefully these feelings will go away.
I echo what most off the ladies have said in this post… How often are you standing by your friends comparing diamonds? My guess is never. You will likely never be in a real life situation where you have to hold your ring up against someone else’s. I have quite a few pretty substantial inclusions in mine that are visible to my naked eye but only one time has anyone ever mentioned they noticed them- my sister and she just happened to be trying on my ring and examining it so closely… Outside of that no one has ever noticed. Don’t worry about how yours compares! your ring looks beautiful to me!
I was just going to say “If you compare yourself to others you will become vain and bitter for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.”
But then you posted pics of your ring and I realized it really is inferior and you should totes be sad.
In real life, when are you going to be able to compare diamonds side by side? From afar, all diamonds look about the same. I had no real preference for any of the 4 C’s for my e-ring because I knew none of them (besides maybe carat) would be that obvious during everyday wear. Be thankful for what you have! Your ring is lovely!
The only person who has to love it is you. You knew you were taking a risk going with an EGL-graded stone.
I’m impressed with how wonderful most of the ladies have been here. Thank you!
I mostly don’t like being lied to by a jeweler who tells me my upgrade, which was a big deal to us, has specs that it really doesn’t. I went in to talk with him today and he used every sales pitch possible (and I’m very perceptive). I mentioned that the whole reason my husband and I upgraded was so that we could have a G color princess cut. He pulled out a stone saying all the “right” things and we felt that there was no reason for him to sell us what we don’t want. Under their lighting, hey, looks amazing. But get it home and discover that it’s not what we wanted to purchase. It’s not about the best specs. It was a simple G color we wanted, of course with other good C’s within reason. Not much to ask for…maybe some honesty on his part would have been nice. Well, when I went in today he put words in my mouth and tried to “back himself up” by saying, “I was selling you an EGL G color not a regular G”. What the heck!!! They initially told me that I was getting a true G then the guy turns around and invents the new alphabet…forget what we learned in pre-school, ladies, apparently there are more than one version of each letter. Rediculous!! I held my diamond up to what ever diamonds he pulled from his case and all those versions of this new alphabet thing was much whiter than mine. Gee…all I want is honesty and to get what we pay for.
After he talked in circles for a while, we came to the conclusion that I wanted to swap my diamond out for one that looked much better in color which he said is a G VS1 and same carat size that we had, one carat. It comes up in his system as GIA but he said that we would need to pay $300.00 for the paperwork because the person who traded that diamond in didn’t return the original cert. I don’t care what a paper says…I care about what I see…I don’t need a certified diamond, I just want one that looks like what I asked the guy for! He did see that this one is whiter and finally admitted it to me in his reluctant way. So…the new diamond should be ready by Monday. I don’t want to purchase any other items from him. I want my diamond and original setting and that’s it!
Go get your nails done, your ring will look at it’s best in that light. I am always so surprised how sparkly mine is.
I have an F Vs2 and in jewelery stores it never looks as good as the ones for sale… Even those of a lower quality. They are polished and cleaned constantly, so the worst thing you could possiBly do it compare your ring to others in store.
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