(Closed) Compared My Diamond to Others

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
7414 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

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Old Hollywood:  remember that the diamonds in store are also kept perfectly shiney and polished and haven’t been worn daily.  My stone is ‘moody’ sometimes it’s warmer than others.  I think the setting will also affect how much you notice various cut features and the amount it will sparkle etc.

Post # 17
1015 posts
Bumble bee

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Old Hollywood:  Your ring is beautiful! I wouldn’t get too hung up on the specs–it’s a lovely ring. However, if it’s bothering you that much, you can always upgrade. Good luck!

Post # 18
2274 posts
Buzzing bee

My diamond is a hot mess. It is riddled with inclusions, chipped, and the cut is old fashioned. 

We recently had it reset in a setting that DH chose, and I could not possibly be happier with it. I could not care less what alphabet numbers or letters apply to it, or anything else about it, except that it was given from a heart full of love and generosity of spirit to a heart full of joy, filled to the brim with the promise of life with a wonderful man.

I always feel SO sorry for brides who have not been given or who have not received their rings in this spirit. The size, weight, clarity, cut, style, surprise? if the giver is a good man, it’s all just fluff.

Post # 19
1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I honestly didn’t even know what the specs were for my center stone until my curiosity got to me because of the Bee. I saw sooo many posts detailing all these exact measurements on their stones, so I looked at the insurance paper that Fiance had me save. To me, those numbers and letters don’t mean a whole lot. When I looked up all of them, and made the mistake of comparing them to some I’ve seen on the Bee, I was a little surprised. And then the worrying over if someone would judge me for it started….and then I thought a bit more about it. No one, ever, is going to actually know what the specs on my stone are. Hell, Fiance doesn’t remember them. No one ever is going to take my stone and compare it to something else – and if they do, for one I don’t know why they’d have my ring, and for two I probably don’t need their opinion nor their friendship. My ring is beautiful, and it’s perfect to me. 


Your ring is a gorgeous ring. I can’t see near any yellow tint to it, except for the picture where it looks like the lighting is giving it a yellowish hint. Your stone looks like someone purified a whole bunch of sparkle and condensed it into one stone! Just beautiful. 🙂

Post # 20
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Why do you care? I am so confused by this post. It seems like you went to jeweler looking for things to be unhappy about with your ring. If you liked it before, why the heck does it matter what the specs are?

Post # 21
496 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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Old Hollywood:  the only princess cut diamond that i know of that is cut to ideal light performance standards is the “a cut above” line by whiteflash.  This guarantees ideal light performance as it is an AGS graded stone with a triple ideal rating. http://www.whiteflash.com/princess-diamond

-I have an AGS000 round brilliant diamond and the sucker blows every diamond out of the water…even the ones under jewelry store lighting.  It has incredible fire and brilliance.  If you are looking for precision cut and performance AGS princess is the way to go.

EGL is notoriously bad at grading, usually the specs are way off.  🙁  I think if you are unable to return it or recoup money, i would try to be happy and love it for all the reasons you loved it before you went window shopping.  Also if you purchase again, only stick with GIA or AGS graded diamonds.

Post # 22
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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Old Hollywood:   I think some of us can’t help comparing ourselves to others or how our things compare.  And no good comes from it.  Your man gave you this diamond out of love, and that means more than all the “perfect cut, perfect color” yada yada…  That salesman had something to gain, so he felt compelled to say something to make you feel like your diamond was inferior.   Mine has a black carbon spot, (which we knew before purchase) but no one notices. But if I took it to a different jeweler, I’m sure he’d point it out to me.  

Keep your ring clean, stay out of the jewelry stores and off the diamond websites for awhile.  Hopefully these feelings will go away.  

Post # 23
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I echo what most off the ladies have said in this post… How often are you standing by your friends comparing diamonds? My guess is never. You will likely never be in a real life situation where you have to hold your ring up against someone else’s. I have quite a few pretty substantial inclusions in mine that are visible to my naked eye but only one time has anyone ever mentioned they noticed them- my sister and she just happened to be trying on my ring and examining it so closely… Outside of that no one has ever noticed. Don’t worry about how yours compares! your ring looks beautiful to me!

Post # 24
924 posts
Busy bee

I was just going to say “If you compare yourself to others you will become vain and bitter for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.”

But then you posted pics of your ring and I realized it really is inferior and you should totes be sad.


Post # 25
6331 posts
Bee Keeper

In real life, when are you going to be able to compare diamonds side by side? From afar, all diamonds look about the same. I had no real preference for any of the 4 C’s for my e-ring because I knew none of them (besides maybe carat) would be that obvious during everyday wear. Be thankful for what you have! Your ring is lovely!

Post # 27
3108 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

The only person who has to love it is you. You knew you were taking a risk going with an EGL-graded stone.

Post # 29
1245 posts
Bumble bee

Go get your nails done, your ring will look at it’s best in that light. I am always so surprised how sparkly mine is.

I have an F Vs2 and in jewelery stores it never looks as good as the ones for sale… Even those of a lower quality. They are polished and cleaned constantly, so the worst thing you could possiBly do it compare your ring to others in store.

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