(Closed) Comparison is the theif of…..

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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1123 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@haileybailey123:  I think there was a saying I read somewhere about happiness – that happiness is merely a measure of our contentedness with what we have – i.e. we only lose happiness when we start comparing ourselves to others.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

It’s a good quote. If you always try to measure up to someone else you’ll never be happy with what you have.

Be content in who you are, what you’ve accomplished and what you have. What somebody else has is of no consequence to you. 

Post # 5
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470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@haileybailey123:  it really is. I think everyone compares the,pm selves to others at some point. sometimes it’s difficult to remember that life isn’t about being someone or somewhere perfect, it’s about LIVING, and we all live differently. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Yup, it sure is. And in this day and age, I think Facebook and Instagram make it even worse. Seeing only the good things that people post about their “perfect” lives, putting up all these self pics of them looking amazing (of course, after they’ve taken 20 of the same one and photoshopped the best angle). 

One thing I really try hard not to do in my life is compare myself or life to others. I’m happy for others for what they have, and at the same time, appreciate my blessings as well. 

Post # 7
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209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

This is one of my all-time favorite quotes. Such a great message to live by, and one that we all should remember 🙂 I first heard it from one of my sibling’s friends who is in a wheel chair and suffering from a disease that will significantly shorten her life.  After hearing her say that, even in her condition, it radically changed my perspective. 

 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

I think comparison is a useful tool but often used incorrectly.

For example, I think it is really only the theif of joy when an isolated portion of something is compared to an isolated portion of something else (i.e., not a reasonable, or “fair” comparison). People tend to do this too much, e.g., focus on the one thing so-and-so has that they don’t have. Well, if that’s all you focus on, then it feels bad, it feels unfair. But the unfairness is in the comparison! Often, when asked to compare everything about that other person and their life (past/present/future and don’t forget their personality!) with one’s own…. then suddenly many of us would no longer be interested in a trade: your life and personality and talents and quirks for theirs, no, you don’t get to keep anything, and neither do they.

However, it’s that more proper comparison which may be enlightening.

To look at oneself (or anything else) as if in a void, never considering what other people or things are like… probably not the road to enlightenment, is my guess.

Post # 9
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2184 posts
Buzzing bee

@haileybailey123:  I think comparing oneself to other people is fine as long as you’re not overly focused on it. That’s normal. We’re all human and no one is perfect.

Having said that, I think I do pretty well in comparing myself to others as little as possible. It’s just not someting I really do. I’m genuinely happy when other people succeed. Other people have told me I’m unique because of this, but I don’t really think of myself as unique. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@haileybailey123:  Reminds me of a quippy sign my dad had on his desk at work when I was a kid that always made me giggle.  It said “success is not enough, my friends must fail.”  I should clarify, my dad’s a comedian by nature, not a jerk 🙂

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