Post # 1
A friend of mine is playing guitar for our ceremony. What should I do to compensate her? She is a friend I had planned to invite anyway, but not a super close friend in recent years (we used to be roommates along with two others).
Our wedding is 1.5 hours away in a rural, scenic area where rooms are somewhat expensive, but not outrageous. Most I think are spending the night. It’s a long windy road back home. She and her boyfriend have ok paying jobs, well, she does anyway, but it’s freelance work so I’m not sure if this is a stretch for her.
What would you do? What’s appropriate?
Post # 3
I think paying for her hotel room would be a nice way of compensating her, if you can swing that.
Post # 4
Two of our friends are doing our ceremony as well. I figure we will get them each a nice bottle of wine and have it delivered to their hotel rooms upon arrival. We also asked them not to gift us anything at the wedding indicating that their presence and eagerness to play for us was gift enough.
That said, like the PP suggested above, you might consider paying for her hotel room (or at the very least, pre-paying half the cost so that when she checks in it’s at a reduced rate). That would be a nice surprise.
Post # 5
If you don’t want to pay her a fee, then I would spring for their accommodation. Discuss this with her first, to see how she feels about that. She might prefer $100 and the option to drive home, you never know.