- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Ok this is a pretty stupid situation, but it’s been bugging me for a couple of months now, and no matter what I do, I can’t seem to get over it.
In a nutshell, my husband stole my hobby.
I’m a runner. I was a runner when we met 3 years ago, and I’m a runner still. I’m not any kind of super amazing runner, but I like it, and it’s my thing. Early on in our relationship, I would invite him to come run with me, but he would always refuse, siting various reasons: his knee hurts, he doesn’t want to infringe on my time, and he’s simply not a fan.
Well a few months ago, he got into what is called hashing. (Look up Hash House Harriers for more info–basically a running club that also likes to drink a ton of beer.) He now does it as often as he can, and in order to improve, he started running on his own. And for some reason, that just makes me FURIOUS. I feel like he stole “my thing” and it rankles that he’s faster and better than I am. I’ve tried running with him, but it’s no fun because either I feel like I’m holding him back, or I take us on some kind of torturously long route to “show him” and make sure he hates everything in the world by the time we are done.
What is wrong with me? My girlfriends have told me to just get over it, and that we are not in competition, but in my mind we ARE. Oh, we SO ARE. To make it worse, guys, he’s started signing up for races. And now he wants to race nonstop.
I’ve tried explaining to him why I get so upset–he’s a black belt in TaeKwon Do. I explained that it’s the same as if I suddenly started practicing martial arts and became a black belt super quick and suddenly he wasn’t the only one in the family who had that.
Anyway….can anyone talk me down off my crazy? Anyone else had these types of situations? HELP!!!! =)