Post # 1
If there was something that you were particularly good at and your SO decided to take it up and compete against you (even in friendly competition) would you have a problem with it?
I dont like to compete, because I dont like to lose (I’m a sore loser plus I have anxiety) so I try to stay away from anything that will get too heated or when I feel the competition is getting personal. My Fiance and I recently signed up for something and got put on different teams. I’ve asked him not to play against me because I dont want it to get to the point where I feel like the loss is personal and be upset with him, but I told him that if he really wants to play I wont play (for that very same reason). Am I crazy? Would you compete against your SO?
Post # 3
Yes, I would and I have. I don’t get upset when I lose.
Post # 4
Woudn’t get upset. I’d absolutely compete with him.
Post # 5
Absolutely would compete against him, and him against me. Nothing wrong with some good healthy competition!
Losing (and learning to be a graceful loser) is a part of life. I’m going to be blunt but I think it’s kind of ridiculous at this point in you life that you guys can’t compete against each other and win or lose gracefully. It’s not like you’re vying for a spot on the Olympic team here, it can’t matter that much if you lose. Not playing is avoiding, not learning.
Post # 6
Yes, I would but I may throw a tantrum if I lose 🙂
But I really relish the competition and think it spices up the relationship.
Post # 7
Absolutely! I’m very competitive and a bad loser and a bad winner lmao. He’s a wrestler and I’m always trying to take him down and getting owned (mostly because he outweighs me by 30+ pounds and I have NO idea what I’m doing). It’s fun!
Post # 8
Definitely! I think that could be really fun.
We used to race against each other and it was SO much fun! We had the same car…. his was newer so technically ran better than mine, but his had 4 wheel drive, which doesn’t race quite as well so it was a constant competition to see if my old car could beat his 4 wheel drive. Then he got a faster one so I didn’t stand a chance, lol.
Post # 9
I am very competitive so I don’t care if it’s a stranger or my Darling Husband I will bring my A game. Darling Husband and I are always competiting over silly little things and it is just silly fun for us. But if it’s something sports related and Darling Husband feels I would beat him, he will avoid it some how or pout if/when he loses. He isn’t very athletic while I am. It is a bummer to me and I try to include him in those activities and make it not a competition, but you know boys and their silly egos. *Sigh*.
Post # 10
I would take him on 🙂 I am very competitive, but depending on the situation can be a bad loser, but I think I would be ok losing to him 🙂
Post # 11
My relationship is one big competition, but in the best, friendliest way possible! We are always challenging each other to do better and there is no better way to push then to offer up some loving competition. Right now we are competing to see who can make 6 figures the fastest. Right now, he’s winning 🙁
Post # 12
Darling Husband and I are both super competitive and are totally fine competing against each other (and do so with frequency).
I think you really need to learn to be a gratious loser. It is an important life skill that you really ought to have figured out before now.
Post # 13
Hmm. Idk, I prefer to have my SO on my team than be against her. I’m not the best loser but I don’t actually get that competitive with her, we do board games & arcade games and stuff & I don’t get mad when I lose (though she usually lets me win I think lol) But in your situation where I can’t control being on a different team, it’d be fine…I wouldn’t quit or anything
Post # 14
Definitely would, we both have competitive natures. We do it a lot. At the end of the day someone gets to go home with a winner so why be a sore loser.
Post # 15
My Fiance and I compete all the time when we play games, but we also push each other to be better because of it.
Post # 16
@talljabride: I’m a sore loser as well. I really can’t win in anything physical against him. He’s 6’1″ and used to play rugby. I’m 5’4″ 😛 He’s way stronger physically, has a height advantage, and is more fit than I am.
I don’t think I’d compete in anything publicly against him but like if we’re playing a game or something we compete.. and I still am a sore loser hahaha. I sometimes win, though.