(Closed) Competitive Co-worker….. What a nightmare

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 3
600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

Ugh, she sounds like my EX best friend!  A real sentence from her mouth “Wouldn’t it be funny if I got into LDC (Lauren’s Dream College) and you didn’t?” in the most sarcastic, horrible voice ever!

She also forced her first boyfriend of 3 months to propose to her because her friend got engaged to her long-term boyfriend of 3 years.  She couldn’t stand that someone else was engaged and she wasn’t.

I have soooo many other stories of her, but I’ve blocked them out of my mind.  I’m pretty happy to be done with her!  Oh, and you may wonder how I got rid of her… I just told her she was being pretty slutty (leaving away messages about having the best sex ever) and that she’s dumb to rush into marrying the first person she dates for a couple months (not saying this is bad in general, but given the circumstances of how she did it, it sure was).  So, not too sure you can get rid of someone like that without being mean, blunt, and bitchy, which is totally inappropriate for the workplace, obviously.

Post # 4
981 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You can try to limit contact to email rather than face to face, That way you have documentation. Email her repeatedly saying you need to schedule a time to work on the project, and you are concerned that you have have not yet begun this “team” project despite multiple attempts to get involved. Then write down your ideas for the project. She can’t pretend to your manager then that you didn’t participate. CYA.

Post # 6
46647 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agre with KitKatNYC

.Make sure you have email documentation about the conversations you have had, offers of help declined etc

 ” Hi ___

Just confirming our discussion re project A. We agreed that we need to do ____ by Tuesday. I suggest that I do ____ and you do ____ and then we amalgamate from there. Does that work for you?”

a little passive aggressive but a girl’s got to do what a girl’s got to do.

Keep you manager in the loop if things are starting t go awry or if you are falling behind.

Post # 7
706 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@julies1949: Agreed. Even if you have to talk face to face, you can send her emails outlining the conversations. That way you have documentation of your interactions. I’d also recommend talking to HR about her. You don’t have to make a big deal out of it, but it’s possible she’s treated other employees about this and it’s always good to keep HR in the loop. 

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