Post # 1
Hello, my name is Twiglets and I fear I am (to my horror) what I said I would never be: a competitive mum. Please don’t flame me.
I notice it welling up in me at mum and baby groups, play dates, MOPS… the comparison factor comes crazy-easy to me and I absolutely hate that I might be one of these women as I really think what they do, both to their own kids and to other women, is rotten. I really want to be the mum who is genuinely excited for other kids’ development and achievements without comparing against them to see how her own children are doing. I don’t want to be that woman who is always trying to one-up or ‘me too, plus’ in conversations with other women about children.
Anyone else trying to squelch this tendency? I hate that it comes so naturally!
Post # 2
The other day, one of my coworkers brought her baby in. I didn’t see her because I was at lunch, but one of my other coworkers was like, “OMG did you see Desiree’s baby? That was the most adorable baby ever!”. In my head, I immediately thought, “No, my baby is the most adorable baby that’s ever lived! I don’t like anyone else’s babies!”. That was an ugly moment, lol. Of course I’m biased and think my baby is the cutest ever, but it was uncomfortable to feel actual jealousy for a minute over it.
Post # 3
Cory_loves_this_girl: +1 My cousin’s 6 year old son said his little brother, who was born a few weeks before my son, was cuter than my son, and it took every ounce of me to smile and just say, “Ok.” Inside, I was like, “No, your brother has a huge, high nose that makes him look like Charlie Brown.” I will never claim to have patience with other peope’s kids though, but I realize kids do say the darndest things, and he’s 6 so I felt a little jerkish that I actually got jealous about something a 6 year old said! Of course, like you, I am biased. My baby is the cutest thing on their earth.
Post # 4
megz06: I would have definitely had a tough time with that! Doesn’t matter if it’s coming from a child or an adult, my inner reaction would be the same haha.
Post # 5
I’ve had my moments too and I also try to control it. My in-laws think Dear Daughter is the GREATEST BABY EVER and since she was born have been constantly referring to how wonderful, smart, beautiful she is. That is all fine but I get a bit uneasy when they speak of how much “more” she is compared to other little ones, especially since none of them are ever even around other kids.
I think it’s natural and kind of sweet that you are concerned. But in the end Dear Daughter is still the CUTEST BABY EVER 😉
Post # 6
Totally natural, as long as you don’t say hurtful or mean things about other babies. I don’t want people comparing my baby to other babies… that really irks me. Plus every mom is biased to her baby… my baby is the cutest baby ever (of course so were his brothers and sister when they were babies). I can acknowledge cute babies and even recognize when a baby does something amazing compared to mine. But no baby will ever be as cute, as fun, as amazing as my own LOL.