(Closed) Competitive Nature + Insecurity = Jealousy

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
865 posts
Busy bee


youre wedding will be as fabulous as the wonderful bride herself!

Post # 4
409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I feel like this all the time- so much pressure for a few hours!

Post # 5
2640 posts
Sugar bee

Uh, yeah, I hear ya.  I think my advice is to make sure to stay true to yourself.  Use the ideas that really stick with you.  If you see your friend used beautiful centerpieces of roses and carnations, don’t drop your idea of peonies.  They will look beautiful too.  And I think it will show if you are happy with what you’ve selected, vs. just choosing something because you thought it’s what you should have selected.

Also use this time to really research.  Use your friends’ fb pics to get ideas or narrow the list.  Scour the internet.  I think you will feel better if you feel like you’ve done your due diligence.  And keep in mind no matter how hard you plan, some glich will pop up.  Guests rarely know.


Good luck.


Post # 6
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

It will be great!

Don’t worry.

I had 3 of my best friends all marry at once back in that magical year of 1996.  I was in all their weddings.  All of them were different and all of them were good.

Unless you booked a chapel and both then further booked the exact same wedding package deal, you have nuthin’ to worry about!

Smile!  It will be beautiful.

Post # 7
2680 posts
Sugar bee

Each wedding is so unique to the couple its very hard for people to actually compare them.   Besides my wedding, I was in 3 other weddings within 4 months of mine!  They were all so different there and really reflected the couple that there was really no way to compare them. Your wedding will be perfect because its YOUR wedding!

Post # 8
972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I get nervous alot and so does Fiance, at least we’ll both have each other but it is nerve wrecking knowing everyone will be watching every move you make and every detail of the wedding. Im sure it will be fine for you and for me! Just make sure you are happy with your hair and make up that day and get plenty of rest

Post # 9
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I think the biggest thing to keep in mind is that you are making your wedding your own. My best friend, me and my roommate got married within 4 weeks of each other, and every wedding was completely different! My BFF had a hindu/christian wedding in our hometown at a hotel, I had an orthodox wedding with over 300 people in our hometown and my roommate had a country wedding on a pig farm (yes, a pig farm). All were fun and had their own touches of the person getting married! My BFF and I even used the same photographer, and he gave a different look/feel to each wedding b/c the personalities were different. The less you worry about it, the more fun you’ll have at your own and theirs!

Post # 10
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so glad to have gotten married around very few other engaged/newly married people in my circle.  I didn’t have much to compare it with then.  But my sister is getting married this year, and I totally have all the same fears about inferiority(and my wedding is already over!)

There’s no looking back, and ultimately, as long as your wedding is what you want, it’s the best it can be!  I doesn’t matter how it matches up to other weddings according to industry standards!

Hopefully you’ll get lots of great inspiration though!

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