(Closed) complaining about a woman's dress code (at work)

posted 8 years ago in Career
Post # 47
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@MrsElopement:  Thirded. “Those who live in glass houses…”

Post # 48
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@vmec:  

That’s an interesting way of looking at it. Can you clarify though, as long as it’s self induced distraction you think your work, or HR department would be okay with that?

Post # 49
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

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@MrsElopement:  

Especially when holding a semi lengthy conversation about something online that is a “distraction” to discuss in real life?

Post # 50
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@vmec:  But once this woman starts dressing professionally who are y’all going to mock?  It’s always fun to have at least one fashion faux-pas person in the office, IMO.  Wink  I would never complain about a co-worker who dressed tacky, because one of the highlights of my day is making fun of the way some people dress.  We even send pics around, love those cell phone cameras. 

Post # 51
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

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@MrsElopement:  lol, so true! I imagine this is a much bigger distraction than having to occasionally say “I’m busy, I don’t wish to talk about {X} right now.”

Post # 52
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

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@Sunfire:  I was just about to say this.  I don’t think tattling on this girl is going to end the temptation of office gossip.

Post # 54
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@hisgoosiegirl:  “I’m busy, I don’t wish to talk about {X} right now.”

I have said this so many times. I’ve even said “You know what? I don’t actually like gossiping about {X}, please don’t talk to me about it again”.

Post # 55
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

I see you already told HR, but I would not have done so. I don’t feel commenting on someone’s dress code (no matter how innappropriate) is a reason to go to HR. Her boss should be the one to take issue with her wardrobe. We have a woman here at my office who dresses like this often. Mini skirts, knee high black leather boots, revealing blouses..best part is that she is in her mid 60’s! Now she doesn’t look it, she looks more like 45, but still….instead of complaining about it, we actually all have a good laugh when she wears these outfits! Brings humor to a mundane day at work.

Post # 56
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@vmec:  By participating in gossip, you are helping to make it an unprofessional environment. You should be reporting all of your coworkers who ever say anything unrelated to the job while you’re at it.

Post # 57
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Sugar bee

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@vmec:  I work as an attorney and I’ve had some younger lawyers wear some distracting clothes. Tight shirts, really really tight and short skirts or tight pants, high heels that clack up and down the corridor in a really really loud way, really deep cleavage showing all over the place. Not only does it distract the men, it makes me uncomfortable too when your shirt is popping open and I can see your bra or your cleavage is showing. I find it very unprofessional, doesn’t matter whether you are an attorney, a housekeeper, an accountant or my babysitter. I would bring it up with HR. People are also missing the fact that you are not doing it out of getting someone in trouble. It could be that the lady really does not know how to dress for a professional environment. Just because something says ‘business casual’ does not mean that folks understand what it means. I’ve seen folks wear summer tank tops (not camisoles) with their business suits (skirt suits without the jacket). I guess I don’t see what the problem is here.

If someone thinks the OP is spending time on the bee, they can report her too! I’ve also worked in places where folks internet use was curtailed. I don’t think bringing stuff up to HR to make someone a more productive member of the job force is a bad idea. Now if the OP said the lady was going to be fired, I’d say ‘Well, don’t report her’ but that’s just me.

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@vmec:  to answer what’s office appropriate? “very business casual” jeans are common place, as are open toe shoes.

hooker heels (ie super platforms, stillettoes), mini skirts (mid thigh), and spagehetti straps tanks are not acceptable

 

Is this actually a policy or your opinion?  If it’s business casual there’s many ways to interpret it. 

I work in an office (some days) in the school board, and i’m the jeans, hockey jersey/t shirt  person.  I also work outside of the office teaching students with disabilities how to work in grocery stores, retail, cleaning jobs, etc so I can’t justify dressing in office clothes most days. I do get “looks” sometimes, but it’s the people who don’t know my actual position who give me the looks.

Post # 59
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I personally have never trusted HR farther than I can throw them, so you would never see me reporting this. And I once had an assistant who dressed like a slutty version of the assistants in the movie “working girl” so you betterbelieve that was distracting!

But I do think it’s a legitimate complaint to make about a work environment. It’s distracting and also unfair to everyone else who works hard to dress appropriately. 

Post # 60
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Helper bee

I don’t see a huge problem with the outfit OP posted as being how short the shirt is.  Its not the longest, but it’s not a mini skirt either.  I am a professional and have to act like one at work, but I wouldn’t talk to HR about someone’s attire unless it was WAYYYY out of line…and frankly, while her taste may be bad, it doesn’t seem like it’s way out of line.  

Post # 61
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: January 2013

At least it’s not leggings worn as pants. We have so many women here that wear leggings without long shirts and I find it very inappropriate. I don’t think the skirt is too short. Too loud? Maybe…but not too short. 

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