(Closed) Completely bummed

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

This is probably not what you want to hear…you can’t expect your parents to help pay for your wedding.  You’re an adult- if you didn’t have that conversation with them in the beginning, you need to assume you and Fiance are footing the bill.

I think you and Fiance need to sit down and discuss what you can afford.  Then, with that budget in mind, readjust your plans.  $1500 for food for 28 people is okay but I think you could look around more.  I also think travel expenses for 4 people is a ton of money.  Your wedding is almost a year away- can they really not save anything by May?  $6500 is also on the high-end for photography.  I see those prices in DC and NYC, not necessarily Oregon.

I think with a new budget plan you can definitely plan a masquerade-style wedding for much less than 13K in 10 months.  Good luck!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

i would say cutting cost with the video and photog.  have you looked around at other prices. we were first quoted wicked high prices, checked around a bit, now we are getting videography, photography, dj, and photo booth for 4300.  I would say def check prices on that stuff.

Im soo sorry your going through this though, it sucks, trust me i know. 🙁

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

$1500 for 28 doesn’t sound too crazy to me, especially if that means you don’t have to pay an additional vanue fee – that’s a little bit more than $50/pp. Would it be possible to find a friend with a big backyard or a state park where you could reserve a space? Then you could probably spend less money on the food – I bet you could find a more casual caterer to do like, barbecue or something along those lines for less money.

I’m a little confused about the travel expenses though – are there people from your hometown who you are paying to fly to Vegas? Or is this a hometown wedding and you have to pay them to get to you? If it’s the first, maybe doing a hometown wedding to avoid paying their travel costs would work better. 

I know the photography/videography is really important, but is there any other photographer/videographer that might work for less? That’s half of your budget right there! Keep an eye out for Groupons, Wedding Channel deals and so on. 

Have you thought about buying a pre-owned or consignment wedding dress? Doing the flowers yourself with mail-order or silk flowers or having non-floral centerpieces? Those things can definitely save some money!

Wishing you lots of luck!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

The price you’re quoting for video/photo is almost the cost of my entire wedding. You can definitely find it cheaper than that.

Post # 7
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2157 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You can definitely cut the photo costs.  You can still get fantastic photos for much cheaper than that.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I get that photography and videography are very important, and I paid over $6500 for my photography/videography, however that included an engagement session, 10 hours of photographer with a second shooter and a videographer.  Since your wedding is only 28 people you do not need a second shooter, and probably no where near 10 hours of photography/videography.  Given your budget and the size of the wedding, as well as the fact that the wedding is on a Monday, I think you should be paying much much less.  Negotiate with photographers/videographers for fewer hours, and cut out the extras like engagement sessions, prints and albums (you can always purchase these later).  I think you should reduce your photography and videography budget to more like $3,500.

Also, yeah, I would hope your family members could save up for airfare given a year’s notice…. Are there relatives in the area that they could stay with so that there is not a hotel cost on top of that?

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

How much money do you have to spend?

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I live in a really expensive city and my videographer was half that. I think you need to videographer shop some more!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Do your Future In-Laws live in your area? If so, have you considered having a very intimate ceremony at their house, and then a larger reception elsewhere? This should allow you to dramatically cut your photography/videography costs (I wouldn’t think a videographer would be necessary) and put most of that money toward your other expenses instead.

Just a thought. I really hope you find a solution that works for everyone!

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