(Closed) Completely changing the wedding and want your input!

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
4824 posts
Honey bee

I think its a little tough to ask guests to do work in the middle of the wedding such as moving chairs. However, depending on who it is maybe they honestly wouldn’t care.

I think of it this way. If my best friend or sibling asked me how would I react? If it were an obviously budget wedding and everyone was helping out where they could, I would be more than OK with it. If it was nicer than that I would feel used and, of course would do it, be grumble about it some.

I think you can certiainly do as you plan, but get the invites out early!  Since your original wedding was 7 hours away, I am assuming people will now have to travel to your wedding that were originally not planning to travel? Do they know what you are thinking? Will they be able to come? Are you OK if they don’t/can’t come?

Are you DIYing food and drinks? Catering?

I planned a wedding across country and people suck at getting back when you are out of state, so you have to be persistant. But I was able to do it. I am not sure it will be less stress to plan a wedding in 2 months than 7 months out of state.

Music- You can do as you want. I do think it would be a little awkward for people to walk down the aisle both directions without something. Usually music is a sign for people to quiet down people are coming (processional) or for the party to leave (recessional)

I am envisioning you walking down the aisle, but people don’t know to look for you so many are still chatting or looking away. Or someone has to make an announcement “Please be quiet, the bride is about to walk” which has an air of a sports game to me.

Post # 4
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

september is so soon! but I think still doable. I definitely agree that it is easier to plan a wedding where you are, which is why I decided to have my wedding where it is, as opposed to in New York which is where all my family is. 

Cocktail hour is always so much better than dinner, so I’m all for a cocktail reception 🙂

do you have a rain plan?

you can definitely move the chairs from ceremony to the reception – I’ve seen that done before – although usually while the guests are at cocktail hour, so I’m not sure how that would work for you….

it’s a little weird to not have music while you’re processing… I would imagine it would feel pretty awkward.

Post # 7
726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Will the guests still be able to make it if you change it up? Because I would be sad if I really wanted certain people there and they couldn’t make it to the new date/location. If there won’t be dinner but only drinks and hors d’oeuvre, make sure it is enough food (or a short amount of time) so that people won’t be angry and hungry, or get hungry enough to leave.

Post # 8
1559 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think that it could work. Our photographer actually did this for her own wedding- she had an outdoor wedding at a location that also had a covered pavilion thing (like you see at most parks- open sides, but with a roof) and they just asked a group of *very close* friends (including all ushers) to move chairs immediately following the ceremony. 

Darling Husband was one of the people helping move chairs, and he said that it actually went pretty smoothly. If your people move fast, and if it’s *right* there, it may only take about 15-20 minutes, if that. 

If you can find a way to keep your guests from missing the chairs immediately after the ceremony, that would be ideal- for example, if you have something outside the pavilion for them to partake in, then it will keep them out of the way of the chair-movers, making it go faster and seem less tacky. 

Post # 10
726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@SFreeman2187: Are the chairs getting moved while pictures are happening? Because maybe if they’re too tied up taking pictures with you, they won’t notice that some people are moving chairs. 

Post # 12
152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I personally wouldn’t not asking the men to move the chairs. I think things tend to get too disorganized. Maybe look at investing in a day of planer (im not sure how much they go for). I aggree with post #2 in the fact that it seems like a lot of guest will be traveling now to your wedding. Since it is only a couple of months away now some guest might not be able to make the travel arrangments. And I do think its doable, but be prepared for a lot of stress to come. As far as the music during the ceremony. I would definitely find a way to play music…I think it might be a little awkward. Good luck with everything!! Let us know what you decide

Post # 13
5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

what abour florals?

and the music situation?


(trying to help you think of all the little details =) )

Post # 16
1559 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Congrats! I’m happy that you made a decision that you’re happy with. 

You forgot to add something to your (very impending) to do list: Invites. Since your wedding is now 2 months away, you need to get those out SOON girly!

Especially if some of your friends/family are going to be making a 6 hour drive… They’ll probably want to find hotel rooms soon, etc. 

Plus, the sooner you get back RSVPs, the sooner you’ll know how many chairs/tables/linens/etc. that need to be rented! 

GOOD LUCK, and please keep up posted! I’m sure it will be beautiful! 

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