- 9 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
Please help me, bees.
I completely DIY’ed my whole wedding practically to save money. However, photography was my one and only splurge – $4500. My now husband hates photos and felt sick when I told him how much the photography was. I booked a photographer objectively known as one of the best in my state. He was not my style — lots of cheesy posed pics kissing, looking at each other, him kissing my neck, stuff like that. I booked him because he threw in some freebies and I was lured in. I previously told him I didn’t like the cheesy stuff, but he assured me that he had to do it becuase if he didn’t take the shot, then well, we wouldn’t GET the shot. He said it was better to get more different poses in the event that I liked it later. I didn’t realize it would be “instead of” the normal, looking at the camera type pics.
Fast forward to the wedding proofs. $4500 later and there are tons of lame photos of us looking at each other, kissing each others necks, looking at the sunset, table decorations, etc. ONLY ONE good pic of us actually close up, looking at the camera, and it is in a BUILDING, not on the beach or even on the grass amongst the palm trees where we were married. I feel so sick. I don’t know what to do. My husband has relocated (a $650 ticket round trip) and we’re moving, so I can’t just ask him to reshoot the wedding. A friend of mine suggested I just ask other friends for their photos, but it’s not the same. I feel sick to my stomach for spending all the money and not getting that basic wedding shot. Well, I have ONE that I like — before the wedding in the hotel. We got married at a beautiful grassy location that was right on the beach. No great sunset photos of us looking at the camera or on the grass, only of us looking into the sunset. Every time we looked at the camera he would say “look at each other” and “kiss his neck”.
What can I ask the photographer to do to correct this? When they sent the slideshow (1/3 of the photos) I had an emotional breakdown on the last day of my honeymoon and spent the whole morning crying. I even called them crying and begging for assurance that there would be more pictures, better pictures and they said I would be happy once I got the whole album. Well, I got the album and there are no pics of just us two. Great ones of me and my bridesmaids, my parents, etc. But none of me and my husband. Should I ask for a re-shoot of the pics of us two? And maybe combine with a trash-the-dress? I would have to fly him back, pay again for hair/makeup, flowers, etc — in all, probably an additional $1000. It would all be worth it to me if I could just get that basic shot. It would cost the photographer just his time. I am going to call and say how disappointed I am. I think I will fly my husband back to take the photos again. Anyone have any advice about how I should approach this? I am completely devastated. I don’t know what to do, but I am dying for that wedding photo. Anyone deal with this kind of issue? The other pics were great, but not the most important ones – of my husband and I 🙁
I appreciate any advice… I probably need to contact him tomorrow.