(Closed) Completely Devistated. Need Help :(

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What Do I Do?
    Move On : (33 votes)
    13 %
    Keep Trying : (0 votes)
    Take It Day By Day : (2 votes)
    1 %
    Run And Never Look Back : (229 votes)
    87 %
  • Post # 76
    Member
    1869 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    brooklyn2203:  why did he come back? Because he didnt have a better offer at the time. 

    you need to stop trying to delve into the reasons he does anything as if there is some deep emotional reason why. He is a 36 year old loser that lives in his mumma’s basement – he doesn’t think – he just does what’s easiest/he feels like at the time. The end. 

    Post # 77
    Member
    201 posts
    Helper bee

    thumperbear:  amen!! He says he loves you but doesn’t care about you… It’s ALL about HIM and HIS feelings, HIS wants, HIS desires… Does ever red what YOU want, what makes YOU happy? Sore doesn’t sound like it. I know it’s hard to let go but girl, you are so better off without him!! Like I said before, we’ve all been there but if you don’t get out, you’ll lead a very miserable life! When you find Mr. Right, you’re going to look back at this and wonder why you wasted so much time!! 

    Post # 78
    Hostess
    8507 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: Dorset, UK

    EDubbs:  Ha!!! Best response ever. Such a graphic yet sparkly image.

    Post # 79
    Member
    1123 posts
    Bumble bee

    This is the easiest poll I’ve ever answered…run and never look back.
    This is messy, he is selfish and basically admitted he is only with you for sex. You can do better.
    I’m so sorry this happened but it is clear from what you said that you need to get out and cut all ties. It should be easy to do with so much evidence that you are making the right decision.

    Post # 80
    Member
    5916 posts
    Bee Keeper

    gogglefruits:  ABusyBride: Ty 🙂 

    brooklyn2203: I’m glad to read your update. If you do go to counselling, go alone, not with Chad- he’s not part of any solution. And listen to what others have said about blocking his number, deleting him from social media etc, because the Chad-ster is exactly the type that will always come sidling back into your life, weasel like, just when you think he’s out of the picture. Because he likes to keep his options open and the drama going, because he’s selfish and immature (TBH my jaw dropped when I first read he was 36). If you stayed with Chad you’d have nothing but drama, insecurity and dimiinished self-esteem. Chad is the kind of douchenoodle Maury Povich opens envelopes for, not the kind of guy two women should be fighting over.  Good luck with a fresh Chad-free new begining 🙂

    Post # 81
    Member
    5916 posts
    Bee Keeper

    EDubbs:  “I’m confused. Does he ejaculate diamonds or something?”  +1000

    Post # 82
    Member
    147 posts
    Blushing bee

    Don’t look back and block his number.  He will try to contact you in the future when you are trying to move one.  

    Post # 83
    Member
    201 posts
    Helper bee

    Any update?? Did you end up going to therapy? Alone/together? How are you holding up??

    Post # 85
    Member
    81 posts
    Worker bee

    brooklyn2203:  Ive been here before, caring for a guy who is not worth it and made me feel like shit all the time. you begin by finding yourself. Ask yourself the most important question here WHY AM I HOLDING ON TO THIS? once you figure that out, learn to love who you are and I mean really love who you are… being in a place where you love yourself so much you will not allow anyone to hurt you like this… the point is take care of you. Why keep hurting over and over and over again. Nothing is going to change here. He will continue to do whatever you allow him to.. LOVE YOURSELF !!!!

    Post # 86
    Member
    1472 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I got to the “he cheated on me with Rae” and didn’t even have to read the rest. STOP wasting your time in this guy. He’s scum and no woman deserves that. Put all your silly fears of being alone aside and do what’s best for YOU. lets just say you had a daughter that was going through this with her Boyfriend or Best Friend, would you want her to continue dating him? Prob not right?? Women need to stop being so emotionally involved with men who treat them like sh*t. PUT YOUR EMOTIONS ASIDE and get the heck out of that relationship. Look how many of us here are telling you the same thing. 

    Post # 87
    Member
    460 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    He is a loser. His family is crazy. You dont want to meet them or much less become part if his family. He cheated. Period. Rae does not work magic. He is a unstable selfish horny man who wants both women. If I were you, I ll dump his sorry ass right after he cheated. Leave now.

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