Post # 1
Hey bees –
It’s been a while since I posted and (shocker) the last time I posted I was posting about how mortified I was that I was just sending out bridal shower thank you’s in December for my shower that was in Septemer (3 months late). We got married in October and it has been 7 months — and I STILL have not gotten thank you’s out.
I hate making excused but holy crap guys I am EXHAUSTED. I work full-time as a nanny to a very loving but very difficult little child who leaves me completely drained, and I also attend school full-time (even during the summer though I am wishing I’d given myself a break this summer). I go 15-18 hours a semester. I also have a part time jobs on random weekends where I nanny another kiddo.
Ya’ll – I am TIRED. And I feel like the worst person ever because I have the thank you’s and the stamps, but I am honest to goodness so busy that I don’t have time to get them done! It makes me sick to my stomach how long it’s been. And when I actually do get an hour or two that I don’t have to do homework or work, I find myself either passing out from exhaustion, or trying to clean my house/go to the store/do a family event, etc.
I am BURNT OUT. But I obvs want to get these done because I feel like I seem so horribly ungrateful and I swear I’m not. 🙁
My family-in-law has made me feel a lot better saying “oh you have a year to send out thank yous!” (even though I am pretty sure etiqutte is like two months, but it’s nice of them bc they know how busy I am). I have repeatedly asked my husband to help me, and I love him, but his excuse is always that his handwriting is bad… which of course frustrates the crap out of me. We’ve gotten in like 3 fights about thank you’s getting done. My husband even told me that it this point there is no point sending them because it’s embarrassingly late. Which makes me feel absolutely awful bc I want to send a thank you bc I love that people thought of us – but I also just am so mortified and embarrassed.
I know I’ll get them done, but it probably won’t be until june/july when I am only taking one course. It makes me feel extra crappy too because everyone else I know sends out rapid fire thank you’s almost the day after the party. I honestly feel bad at this point when I receive a thank you note. 🙁
I feel so terrible guys. I honestly don’t even have the time to be writing this post but I am feeling like HEAVY because of the weight of feeling so bad about this
And I have 16 homework assignments due TOMORROW. I feel like I am drowning.
I am so grateful to you all for always letting me vent. I feel like such a terrible person right now. I am so embarrassed. 🙁
Thank you for listening. It means a lot. 🙂
Post # 3
You could’ve written at least 3 or 4 of those in the time it took you to write this post. Not trying to be snarky at all, just making a friendly suggestion. Why don’t you set aside a few minutes each night to knock off a few thank yous? It’s overwhelming to look at a stack of unwritten cards, but take a few off the top and get them out and you’ll be done in no time.
And good for you for busting your ass to get through school while working full(plus!) time!!
Post # 4
Not to be rude but start by getting off of wedding bee! Maybe do some while nannying, the people who got you gifts were most likely busy as well the least you can do is thank them. Id be completely embarressed, but i wouldnt let that happen.
Post # 5
Yep, in the time it took to write this post you could have got a couple done. Probably could have knocked off a few more each time you and your hubby argued about it haha. -If you can do a few each day then you’ll be able to knock them of in no time! And it will feel more manageable – you will only be facing doing 3 a day rather than sitting down to a pile of a 100 or something.
People do notice when thank yous don’t come or are late. We finally got a thank you card from a couple whose wedding we attending 14 months ago. And all it was was a generic photo of them with a typed thank you message on it, not hand written or personalised. 14 months – seriously!?
Post # 6
In the time it took you to write this post, you could have written a couple of thank you notes. And you KNOW you have watched TV in the last 7 months. Come on.
Post # 7
Don’t take it all on at once. As the previous posters said, do a few instead of vegging out online or try to get three or four done during nap time/lunch time/whenever with your nannying charge. If you look at it like “Holy hell in a hand basket, there are a zillions of these to do!” you’ll never get done. But if you shoot for five a day, you’ll be there in no time.
Post # 8
Just do a few a day. Once you get started, you’ll be fine.
Post # 9
+1 to prior posters. Also, you can tell your husband that a random stranger from the internet says to get off his ass and write half the freakin’ notes. No one cares if his handwriting is bad, but they do care about not being thanked.
Post # 10
Deep breath! Don’t let yourself get caught up in feeling ashamed and embarressed. Those emotions won’t help you, only hurt you.
Focus on being determined.
Even if you just do one a day, every little step will make you feel that much better.
Post # 11
After a while, I think it’s too late and there’s no point. All or most of your guests have already moved their thoughts far away from your wedding and are now thinking about other things. I think sending out Thank You cards this far in the game wouldn’t help matters. And I would just think it’d be awfully weird. It’s like receiving a Christmas card 7 months after Christmas… If I had a received a Thank You card for something that happened 7 months ago. I’d be like “Okay? Why am I receiving a Thank You card for something that happened last year?” It would just make you look bad.
If anybody asks why you didn’t send them a Thank You card, let them know that you do appreciate there coming but working full-time and going to school full-time and other part-time jobs you really don’t have the time to do it.
Post # 12
I appreciate the responses even thought I think I was hoping for (some of them) to be worded a bit more kindly. 🙂
I clearly know I am slacking at an embarrassing rate at sending these out and feel like absolute garbage about it. If you’ll look I haven’t posted on here since December and just fyi we currently don’t have tv because we can’t afford it. Not trying to be woe is me even though it might sound like it – but I do feel crazy overwhelmed with things to the point I feel like I can’t breathe and I am just randomly breaking down and crying.
Awesometimes around here right now. lol. I won’t say I wasn’t looking for sympathy because I guess I maybe was (without really realizing it). I honestly didn’t even realize how alone and overwhelmed I felt until I started writing that post. So thanks for letting me vent even if you didn’t have a pity party for me. 😉 Back to the grindstone.
Post # 13
Venting is good for the soul. And I doubt writing thank you letters is as theraputic is that.
Write a few a day and send them out as you write them. That way, you’re unloading a little piece day by day. Also, maybe stop viewing them as a chore, but a token of appreciation to your guests who were very generous to you.
Post # 14
@raziel1687: I understand your point (and I think my husband is right there with you unfortunately, lol) – but I kind of feel like some people ARE waiting for the thank you’s– like older relatives and such. And that is what makes me feel extra crummy. I need to just call in sick one day and get them done I think bc I honestly don’t know when I’ll have the time. 7 months late is better than 9 months late I guess? Oy. 🙁
Post # 15
Husband’s hand writing is bad? Fine, he writes out what it should say on another piece of paper and you write it out in the actual card.
Just promise each other you’ll do 3 a night before bed. No bed until they are done. You’ll have them done in no time!
Plus, it’s always better to be late, then to never get them done. 🙂
Post # 16
@Sparkle Pony: when you get around to doing them in the summer just explain in the note that you have been run ragged with work and school or whatever….I think people will still appreciate the thank you note..