Post # 1
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Helper bee
Bees, I need help!!!!! Idk how many of you have been following my posts about my father in law and my dream for a winter wedding. Recap: I want a winter wonderland but no one knows if FFIL will make it that long, PLUS fiance’s divorce isn’t finalized yet so we can’t do it this winter. Well, we will be getting married asa FI’s divorce goes through ETA in April. The small ceremony we will have with FI’S family will be around May or June. I still want to have a wedding where my father walks me down the aisle, etc, etc. My mother (who lives in PA) wants the big wedding in PA since FI’s family won’t be going to it anyway. Now here’s my problem, I grew up in PA and moved to Cali for school. I have a few siblings here as well as an aunt, an uncle and some cousins. Would it be a good idea to host it in PA? More people will have to travel if we do it here but if we do it there my cousins and aunt and uncle will probably not show. The wedding will be in August. I need good ideas on colors and themes and what not. I had this entire winter wonderland planned and now i have to start all over…. HELP!!!! The colors I’m looking at are Robin’s egg blue, black and crimson
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
Woah, there are 2 reasons you’re not getting a lot of help – 1) you posted this in pets lol and 2) you asked so many questions, it’s really confusing.
Are you having 2 weddings? One for your FI’s family and one for yours?
I would say, have the wedding either (a) at the venue you like best whether it’s in cali or PA or (b) at the venue where the majority of the people important to you can get to – aka PA, probably. I would choose family over venue, so I would say PA.
As for summer themes, there’s a million and that can take a whole thread on its own. What sort of colors did you have picked out for your winter wonderland theme? Why did you pick that theme? I would also consider picking a theme after picking a venue. A certain venue might “speak” to you and then dictate your theme.
Post # 5
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Helper bee
@futuremrsk18: Oh no, no wonder. I’m reposting and going to try and make it less confusing.
Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
@RobandLil0107: Ok, good luck! You can ask for this thread to be closed so people don’t continue to come here instead of to your new thread, once you post it.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
I agree that you should have the wedding at the location where the people you care most about can attend. Too bad you can’t do a christmas in july theme. That would be like a winter wonderland theme just with warmer temperatures.
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
I know this isn’t that helpful, but how certain are you on the divorce finalization date? Those things can have a tendency to move around. I know you probably want to get married ASAP, but it could really cause you a lot of stress if you’re getting close to the date and it still isn’t finalized.
Post # 9
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Helper bee
@NAvery: we have plenty of leeway on the divorce, we have back up dates as well our lawyer is certain we wont need them tho
Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
I would be cautious in hardcore wedding planning for May or June beacuse divorces being finalized can be a bit unpredictable. I personally would not set a wedding date until the divorce was final.
Post # 11
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Helper bee
Ok the divorce thing is being taken care of I’ve thought of every possible situation and we are good. I just need help on decor for my wedding…
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