Post # 1
Is anyone else going through this? Before the engagement started I had a hard time concentrating at work, and completing tasks. Now, I can’t at all. I want to get tested for ADHD, but I also know that right now things are crazy (less than 7 weeks until the wedding) and that is only making it worse. Even when not at work I can’t complete something I am working on, and get distracted easily (laundry that never gets folded, half of the dishes done, half written e-mails etc.)
My family and fiance say that it is because of everything that is going on. That is great, but how do I fix it? I have to say that this website doesn’t really help either, but I keep checking it. I make lists, and then get overwhelmed by them. I used to be able to just plug right through them.
Is anyone else struggling with this? Does anyone have any tips for focusing?
Post # 3
how about using a checklist that only has the top 5 priority items on them? When I really need to focus but can’t, i use headphones and play music.
Post # 4
Yeah, I can’t function wothout a check list at work. I am an accounting assistant and am basically in charge of daily business at the place I work. I have so many things running around in my head on a daily basis that need to get done. If I didn’t write down things right as I think of them, lots of this stuff would slip my mind! I am religious about it.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
I sometimes try to really micromanage myself when I can’t concentrate. I make a few lists:
5 things that need to happen in the next 5 mins
5 things in the next 5 hours
5 things in the next 5 days
And just get going from there. Lists always help me, because then I feel like I’m accomplishing something when I cross it off.
Post # 6
Yeah I love crossing things off. But like Penguin says, it can be death if you make your list too big! I do my lists at work by week. And I did my wedding list just a few tasks at a time. I would accomplish a few, cross them off, feel super awesome for a few seconds, then try to come up with some more tasks to replace the ones I had crossed off.
It feels great now because I am actually getting to a point where I don’t have many more tasks to fill in the ones that have been crossed off!
I do struggle with the things you have said. Sometimes I get up from dinner, go off to do something, forget I was eating dinner (?!?) and my fiance will call me from the kitchen “Errr… are you planning on finishing?” HAHA I think its fairly normal, try not to worry too much ^__^
Post # 7
Yes, the lists aren’t working like they used to. I keep trying. Haha, that’s funny that you get up from dinner….I feel like I’ve done that too.
I just feel like my brain doesn’t work like it used to. Does this whole wedding planning thing do permanent brain damage, or just temporary?
Post # 8
Penguin, I like your list idea with the different times. I will have to try that.
Post # 9
I am making my list at work right now, for tomorrow.
Our CFO just walked by and I was the only one still here! So at least people THINK I am doing work 🙂
Post # 10
I have about 15 lists going right now…I am in the same boat as you. I can’t keep my mind on work, and when I am home, sometimes the lists seems so overwhelming, I don’t even know where to start, so I don’t. I think the shorter lists like Ms. Penguin suggested would be a godsend. At least there’s only 5 things to worry about rather than 50.
Post # 11
Talk to you Dr. and they can write you are prescription if necessary Strattera, it’s for concentration and ADHD med. It can be used occassionally or on a regular.
Post # 12
Jaimie Lee – Yes, I made a HUGE list, and then split it into months. The only bad thing about that is then I freak out and think I have to finish that thing in that month. Like I HAVE to find a videographer in July, when really it was ok that I found him in August. You know?
Oh well, I only have the final countdown list now, and I assigned tasks to everyone.
I also saved the list electronically, and then e-mail myself stuff to add to it.
I feel like I have unrealistic expectations of myself sometime…and it’s ok if stuff doesn’t get done you know?
Good luck to everyone. I am for some reason happier today and not as overwhelmed.