(Closed) Completely unreasonable post/”sorta” vent–ex’s wedding

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
949 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Well, at least you know intellectually that it’s not a reasonable thing to be upset about, but it doesn’t change the way you feel. If it makes you feel any better, the other day I saw a photo on Facebook of an ex with the girl he dated before me–mind you, we went out early in college. Kind of messy, but it’s long over and he and I even check in now and then. And here he is looking kind of like he’s back together with the girl he broke up with before he dated me, and it just made me so irrationally mad. I don’t think they’re even back together, but it really got to me.

And that does suck that their wedding seems so close to what you’re doing, including the dress. Just try to remember that your life is not theirs. Sometimes, I know it’s bad of me, but when something like that comes up, I like to try to remember that I don’t know the whole story. Maybe, I don’t know, she doesn’t get along with his parents. Maybe it was all very pretty, but they shouldn’t really have spent so much money. I don’t know, maybe that’s malicious of me, but sometimes it’s just good to remember that things that look perfect aren’t always so perfect. We’re all human.

Post # 4
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Take it as a complement that he went and found someone just like you. LOL

Obviously he knew he lost a good thing.

Post # 6
981 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

1) Any woman at your wedding is going to realize you’ve been working on things for months, if not years, and will not think you copied. 2) No man is going to be paying so much attention to your dress and color scheme to notice similarities. Don’t let this get you down!

Post # 7
2084 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1993

I can see why you’re frustrated, but I’m sure you’ll look amazing in yours! Whilst to some degree brides look similar, what everyone normally remembers is how happy they looked, not the dress details.

Post # 8
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I can understand your frustration.. But your day will be perfect and it will be  yours.. You dont need to worry about there wedding.

Post # 9
4324 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

I get where you are coming from. Look around these boards on any given day, and women freak out that ANYONE’S wedding looks just like theirs. Now, of course it’s going to be doubly upsetting if an EX’S wedding was a carbon copy. The last thing you want is to be reminded of an ex on your wedding day.

Chin up, though.  You are getting married a whole season after them. I bet you people will forget the fine details of the previous wedding. They will mostly pay attention to how happy you are, and the delicious food they get to eat. Color schemes tend to be forgotten. You’ll get your day, and when it comes around, i bet you wont even be thinking about what’s-his-name anyway.

Just try to enjoy what’s to come with your new husband.

Post # 10
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I recently found my ex- new wife on fb and wonderful mountain man said ” he got the low rent model of you”.  He also said “remind me if I ever meet him to say “thanks for screwing up”. 

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