Post # 1
Hhhmmm, long story short – My fiance and I have a son who will be 2 and a half and will obviously be our ring bearer. We also have neices and nephews… originally we were just going to use our two neices that are my fiances god daughters as our flower girls (ages 8 & 3), but they have twin boy and girl (age 5) sibs that will definitely get their feelings hurt if they aren’t used as well. In fact, all of them will be sad if they aren’t used, especially the 8 year old (and quite honeslty I’ll be sad if she’s not in it, she’s my little buddy). So it’s pretty much all or none. So do we make them all flower girls and ring bearers or stick with the plan and have the twins pass out programs? Or all flower girls and a junior groomsman? Has anyone come up with creative solutions to having tons of kids in the wedding?
Our wedding party is already enormous and uneven… I have 8 bridesmaids (2 fsil, 3 sisters, 3 bfs) and my fiance has 5-6 groomsmen.
Post # 3
5 year olds definitely can’t handle the responsibility of handing out programs so I would nix that idea if I were you (and they wouldn’t see it as an equal position anyway). Personally, I would go with JUST the 8year old. Tell the parents in advance and have them help back you up and explain to the others that they are just too little.
Post # 4
I would include all of them and none of them are too little to be flowergirls/ringbearers. We had two 3 year olds as our ringbearers and a 4 year old as our flowergirl and they all did a perfect job!
Post # 5
Unless her parents would be upset, I think you’re okay not giving the three year old a special duty.
Why not have the eight year old pull the twins down the aisle in a wagon or similar? They can throw peatls from the back.
Post # 6
i read about a wedding once where they had all children in attendance walk up the aisle right before the bride. I think ringing bells. It sounded very sweet. The parents were just told ahead of time to have the kids in their Sunday best.
i have 2 nephews (8 & 12) who will be involved, but i don’t really feel any reason to pick titles. i labled them masters of ceremony on our website. i think it annoys some people, though. i may give all my cousins’ kids (4-7) some role once we get closer.