(Closed) Complicated invitation etiquette

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
3555 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

How about

together with their partners x and y invite you to join them to celebrate their marriage. 

Post # 3
1602 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

“Together with their families, aevan and mr aevan request the pleasure of your company/honour of your presence as they are united in marriage.” 

Id skip all the names and go with that. Your wedding invitations don’t need to read like a family tree. 

(The two options are for a wedding outside the church or inside a church). 

Post # 4
1168 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I have kind of a fussy family situation too, and just put “together with our families” X and X invite you….

Or maybe:

Bob & Ann Smith

Together with

Tom & Shirley Brown and Jerry Johnson

Or I think “and Jerry Johnson” is fine on the next line too. People understand.

Post # 5
708 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

If I’m not mistaken something like this may work:

brides parents invite you to celebrate the marriage of their daughter brides name to grooms Name son of grooms father and grooms mother and step father

Etiquete dictates divorced parents be listed by their married names, father first then mother… I believe, it’s been a while for me. 


if you were to list them it would be the same order, brides parents followed by grooms parents listed father then mother. 

Post # 6
594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 1993

“Together with our parents”.  If you want to include everyone just do this.  To ME it would not matter if he is contributing if I wanted to include him. 

Post # 7
508 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

If you want to include everyone, “Together with their parents…” is definnitely the safest way to go.  My FH and I decided to go with more traditional and formal invitations listing my parents only, but that is a personal choice. 


I do feel like if you do decide to include names, it is important to include his father too, regardless of if he has helped financially, because if he is anything like the people I know, he would probably take it as a snub.  In that case, I agree with @Ziggy2112, and the wording they suggested.

Post # 8
2668 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

My parents are also divorced – dad is remarried whilst mum is single. On top of this, my Father-In-Law had passed about a year and a half before our wedding. To save the complexity, we just used “together with their parents”. My mum also did not contribute financially to the wedding (not without trying though – as a single mum working part time, we refused to accept money from her) but she definitely acted in a support capacity.

Post # 9
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

My parents are divorced and both remarried and DH’s parents are together. All contributed enough that we wanted to include them all on the invitation but thought it would be ridiculous to list all of their names so we went with ” Together with their families, bride’s name and groom’s name….”. It just seemed easier that way 

Post # 11
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I’m in a similar situation, my parents are divorced and remarried and his are not – everyone is hosting. Here’s how I plan to word it:


Kimberly Bride & Ray Groom

together with their parents

Maria Bride Mom and Victor Step-dad

Gerry Bride Dad and Alana Steo-mom


Michael and Linda Groom Parents

Request the honour of your presence at their wedding

Saturday, 24 of June 2017 3:00 pm


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