(Closed) Complicated name change – need help

posted 5 years ago in Names
  • poll: What should I do with my name?
    Maiden-Name Married : (36 votes)
    84 %
    Maidenname Married (remove hyphen from maiden name, add married without hyphen) : (5 votes)
    12 %
    Maidenname-Married (remove hyphen from maiden name, add married with hyphen) : (2 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1020 posts
    Bumble bee

    Hmm…I voted that you keep the hyphen, but not add one between your name and FI’s name. My surname was hyphenated as recently as when my grandfather was born, but one of the names was dropped to pass as another ethnicity – the first name is used in both Polish and Ukrainian, but the second one was distinctly from western Ukraine. Since my grandparents were emigrating out of Poland just before World War II, there were quotas on non-Polish passengers.

    Hopefully my rambling didn’t come across too badly, I just was adding that if things were slightly different, that I might have been in your situation.

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    7561 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    If I were you, I would probably keep my maiden family name and just go by FI’s name socially. Dealing with three last names seems incredibly complicated. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    188 posts
    Blushing bee

    make it your middle name. three official last names seems ridic! your poor kids would be miserable having to bubble that in!

    Post # 7
    Member
    188 posts
    Blushing bee

    @shady_lane:  oh, got cha. well i dont love any of those combos (though maybe it sounds better with your real names?)

    and I feel you on the interracial thing. lord only knows what our kids will look like but we are prepped and ready for when someone thinks i’m the nanay. sigh.

    Post # 8
    Member
    3136 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    @shady_lane:  really? Horror story how? I grew up mixed with a lily white mom and was never once was she asked to prove that these brown girls were hers or even asked. This was in the late 70s and 80s before there were a lot of mixed brown babies. I’m not sure that’s a real issue. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    3136 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    @shady_lane:  no, she never changed her name so we have different last names!

    Post # 12
    Member
    2363 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @shady_lane:  I voted for #1, but before you get too attached to that name, make sure NJ law allows it.  Here in NY, you cannot have two last names unless they are connected by a hyphen.

    Post # 13
    Hostess
    7561 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @shady_lane:  Ah I can understand, that could also be a huge pain! 

    Post # 15
    Member
    283 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @mamadingdong:  I know an acquaintance who was asked to prove that her son (as an infant) was related due to their difference in looks in an airport. She’s fair-skinned with freckles and redish hair. Her son has an olive complection with dark hair and eyes, just like his father. Her son is now 8. 

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