Post # 1
I’m pretty sure that I’m acting a “little” childish about this, but I’m not sure how to approach it. I really want to get my nose pierced, but I know that my Fiance doesn’t like tattoos and piercings that much so I want to respect him. I’ve asked hi several times and until today he really hadn’t said anything but a sigh or “well that’ll look just like a silver pimple.” My anticipation keeps building to just get it done and when I came home from work today and told him I was really thinking about it, he said “your nose is so cute and that won’t be.”
I don’t wanna hurt his feelings, but I don’t wanna just forget about it. I asked him out of respect, but is there a compromise?
Post # 3
This is just my POV – in most personal appearance cases, I only ask my fiance if I’m trying to decide between two things. I might tell him I’m thinking about something (tattoo, etc) but I have a “it’s my body” policy that he agrees with. A nose ring isn’t an obnoxiously obvious thing, do you really think he’d be that bothered by it?
Since you already asked him, maybe just let him know that you value his opinion, but you’re doing this for yourself. Maybe ask him to help you pick out a specific ring/stud that he likes?
Post # 4
hmmm a tough one. Lilyfaith I totally understand your opinion but not sure I agree. I hate moustaches and have told fiance when he jokes about it that I totally have veto power over a moustache. If he wants a mohawk, cool, bald cool, but no moustaches!
Why would you do something to your appearance that your fiance would hate?
Post # 5
The benefit of getting a piercing over a tattoo is that you can easily remove a piercing – a tattoo is pretty permanent. I would consider having a discussion with your husband to find out WHY he feels the way he does. For example, some religions do not agree with tattoos and piercings because they feel they are unnaturally marking the body (not sure if I’m explaining it right). If it’s just a personal preference he has, I think that’s different that a strongly held conviction.