(Closed) Computer Spaces – Partner and I cannot agree

posted 4 years ago in Home
Post # 2
607 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Outdoor

My Darling Husband is a gamer and a programmer who works from home, so I understand big computer setups. In our first place together, it was a 1 bedroom apartment so he had his desk set up in the middle of the living room. It was a big long room with the front door on one end, entered into the dining area with the kitchen off to the side, then the middle area with the computer desk on one side and door to bedroom on the other, and then finally the living area with couch, coffee table, and tv, next to sliding glass do that led to the back deck. I did not love it but the only other option was our bedroom which was right out. Now we have a small 2 bedroom house, so the 2nd bedroom has been the office. Darling Husband says it is so much better for him to have the desk out of the living area because it allows him to mentally “clock out” when he leaves the office room and comes into the living room. As I understand it, your partner is using the computer for entertainment, right? In that case I can see wanting it to be ajacent to the other living areas, because i definitely did feel like Darling Husband and I spent more time together (if not actively together, at least physically) when we lived in the apartment and the computer was closer to the living area. 

Since it seems like your partner is set on where it is, what about trying to find a screen or a bookshelf or something that can separate the entryway from the computer area? That way you won’t have to walk into your house and be immediately greeted by screens, and he won’t have people walking directly by him whenever you have friends over or whatever. I know you had a different vision for the space, but from my perspective, it seems like he best option, since it keeps you in the same living area without disrupting your living room or dining room. I think it’s probably more trouble than it’s worth to try to convince him to move it upstairs- plus if he games late at night while you are trying to sleep, it would be much nicer for you to be able to leave him downstairs than to have him in the next bedroom (Even though Darling Husband uses headphones I can still hear him in the office when I am in bed- if only we had 2 levels!)

Hope this helps, good luck!

Post # 3
1122 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Can he get a laptop?  That’s how Darling Husband plays his games. 

Post # 4
1311 posts
Bumble bee

Is the unfinished basement an option? That would be a cool option for a man cave type thing. 

I wouldn’t want the computer in the main area either. Those things are an eye sore. 

Post # 5
14985 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We have the same issue.  DH refuses a laptop cause he says it’s not good enough for gaming.  We have 3 spare bedrooms upstairs that we could turn into an office, but if he’s up there, we’d probably never see each other!  So… we leave the computer downstairs where it’ll fit in the back living area next to the main living room where the TV is… this way even when he’s in his room doing his thign and i’m in mine doing my thing, we can still yell over to each other and are kinda “together”.  Maybe he can downsize his screen so it’s not such an eyesore?  40″ seems a little much for a computer!  

Do you have pictures of the space?

Post # 6
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Do you have any closets downstairs that can be turned into a desk, so when company comes over you can roll the chair away and close the door, or hang curtains you can slide shut?

Post # 7
2968 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I vote for finding a way to make him a computer ‘man cave’ in the basement. My Darling Husband just moved his computer desk into the living room temporarily and I HATE that it’s visible through our front windows if we forget to close the blinds when we go out. I would be super uncomfortable with it being in the front room like you describe. 

I don’t even like the idea of having our room arranged so you can see the tv with the blinds open, to me it’s like saying ‘hey we have nice stuff, come rob us’

Post # 8
84 posts
Worker bee

Washingtonian:  no serious gamer is going to use a laptop and if they do, it’ll still be plugged into a larger screen. 

Post # 9
1002 posts
Bumble bee

Washingtonian:  As a PC gamer, I can tell you right now that’s not going to happen.

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