Conceiving naturally after six cycles of actively trying

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I fell pregnant after 2 months of trying in June 2015 and that ended in a chemical pregnancy and i didn’t fall pregnant again until December 2016

it will happen don’t stress too much 

Post # 17
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Bee Keeper

beignetwife :  I came off the pill in March of 2015 just to see how my cycles would be after being on the pill for so many years. In November 2015 we started actively trying and I began temping and tracking my cycles for ovulation using fertility friend. It took a few months to nail down when I actually ovulated and if our timing was actually right. By August 2016 I was beginning to feel discouraged as nothing was happening and I was sure we had hit the mark on a few cycles. I went to my doctor and asked what the next steps would be in finding out if either me or my husband had any fertility issues (I’m 34 husband is 33) He sent me for blood work and a transvaginal ultrasound as the first steps then said that my husband would have to be checked before they would do anymore testing on the womens end.

Well guess what literally two weeks after having the ultrasound I found out I was pregnant! My breasts were really hurting and they felt different and I took a pregnancy test and was shocked it was positive! I was sure that we had not hit the mark on that cycle at all and in fact we did. I’m currently 20 weeks pregnant with a baby boy 🙂 

In talking with a bunch of our couple friends most of them said it took them about a year to get pregnant when they were trying for their frist so don’t be discouraged Bee it can happen

Post # 18
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Busy bee

beignetwife :  I didn’t get pregnant for almost 3 years of trying, including one IUI.  The statistics they gave us at the fertility clinic said that we had less than a 2% change of ever conceiving naturally due to some male factor issues we have going on. 

Well…I got pregnant, naturally. On a cycle where we only tried once during the fertile window and AFTER I had ovulated.  As you know that ended up being ectopic which, by all signs, was just bad luck. But it happened. 

As I’m sure you know, 85% of couples get pregnant after trying for 12 months.  The odds are in your favor, so try not to get too discouraged (though I understand those feelings well). 

 

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

beignetwife :  I went off BC in July 2010…charted, tracked BBT, peed on so many effing sticks (thank god for Amazon) … finally got pregnant without any medical intervention in July 2012 (2 years! 26 cycles!).  During that time I watched 8 or 9 of my friends/family members get pregnant. Some things you can’t control no matter how much you try. I truly learned that lesson. 🙂 The best thing is, the timing of my daughter’s birth ended up being absolutely perfect and I would never take back the two years it took to conceive her.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

beignetwife :  just wanted to say that im feeling the exact same way today. I cant even concentrate at work..or enough to do chores around the house. I just sit.. sulk… and google. I feel like at this point, im just waiting for medical intervention.

Post # 22
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Helper bee

My best friend tried for a year for her first. She warned me we should be prepared for it to take that long. She also said they were going to try for their second soon, assuming it would take awhile. They got pregnant the first month that time! So now her kids will be a little closer in age than they expected.

I know this is hard!

Post # 23
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Busy bee

beignetwife :  I completely understand. I have gone through all of the stages (hoping we’d get pregnant before our fertility testing, hoping we’d get pregnant before our IUI, imagining being pregnant by a certain point – wedding, vacation, etc. maybe if we just timed it better, saying no to vacations way in advance because of the risk that we could be pregnant by that time, feeling frustrated thinking back on the vacations we COULD have gone on since we weren’t pregnant anyway).  

All of this to say…I get it. I shared my story not to make you feel silly for feeling these things at this point in your journey, but to encourage you to be hopeful and to not give up.  There are lots of people who have a friend of a friend or cousin or neighbor who got pregant after [insert scenario] but I think it’s more impactful when you hear the story first hand from the actual person who went through it.  

And these days I find it helps to focus on the positives as much as possible. My ectopic was heartbreaking but it gave me hope that I was able to get pregnant naturally and maintain a strong and healthy pregnancy (just in the wrong place!).  I find my mental health is in a better place when I speand time thinking about the things I have to be thankful for and trying to catch myself making comparisons to what others have that I don’t.  I hope that doesn’t come across preachy.  I just wanted to share what’s helping me at the moment!

 

Post # 24
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Sugar bee

6 months seems way too early to throw in the towel and seek medical intervention to me, especially at your age. But, check with your doctor. I went off the pill in 1/2016. We sort of tried not to get pg before a big vacay in 6/2016. During that vacay, I started to track ovulation and continued to do so until I found out I was pg in 11/2016. I am 39. I was going to give myself until 3/2017 until asking a doctor about it if I was still not pg.

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

32 weeks pregnant naturally after trying for 16-18 cycles. I stopped counting in the end I was just sick of the number going up. I didn’t have any chemical pregnancies or miscarriages this was the first time it actually happened and thankfully it stuck. I had been off birth control for two years by the time we started trying as well and it still took a while but I’ve had a pretty easy pregnancy so I’m thankful for that. 

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

beignetwife :  I also did have your dream scenario. Darling Husband was booked in for his SA and I found out I was pregnant I think two weeks before it. I swear his sperm worked extra hard because he was so mortified at the idea of having to go to the hospital and give a sample. It happens sometimes so everything crossed for you. Just remember six months really isn’t that long. They can throw statistics at you that it takes x amount of time but plenty of real people take a lot longer and get pregnant naturally. 

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

You’re not too old at 29. I got pregnant last year when I was 36, I’ll be 37 when she’s born in a few weeks. 

You are still well within the “normal” range – a couple with no infertility issues whatsoever can take as long as 12 months to conceive. The majority of my friends took at least 3-4 months trying, some as long as 18 months. 

Its a tough road. Don’t put your whole life on hold for the “what if I’ll be pregnant…” scenario. Book your holidays, keep eating all the good foods, enjoy some wine while you can.

I have no brilliant advice other than to say I’m thinking of you and sending virtual hugs!!! 

Post # 28
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Bumble bee

beignetwife :  Me, it took us 13 months I did 5 rounds of Clomid then stopped and took a break from meds while getting ready to see an RE.  The cycle before we started with the RE we got pregnant all natural.  

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2016

I understand how you feel and in a similar-ish situation. I’ve just turned 30, stopped BCP in April 2016 and started just tracking periods and assumed with a 28-30d cycle I I’d around cd 14, got into opks around Oct and then realised I was completely off and actually O around cd 18-20, have had well timed cycles since then but still nothing! Just got back my day 3, 7dpo and AMH bloods and they were all nice and normal. I’m 7dpo today and have a good feeling about this cycle now that I have gone through some testing, Darling Husband is going to get a SA done if AF arrives…. That all said, I know deep down that I am (and you are) within normal timeframes to conceive but feel like getting those prelim tests done mean at least we can try knowing there is not some big obvious reason why it isn’t happening that could be easily fixed (like low sperm count). 

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

My first child took 2.5 years to conceive, she infact was a rainbow baby because two week prior i had a miscarriage at the 7 week mark. Felt like throwing the towel in when there was no heartbeat but.. 2 weeks later i was pregnant again.

This time ttc i got pregnant 3 months in! Total shock! 

I also have endo and pcos.. so anything is possible 🙂 please stay positive. Babydust to you 💗

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