(Closed) Conception Logistics – TTC and “Surprises”!

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think they’re just “lucky” as you put it. If you consider a woman in an average relationship though… she is probably having sex on a regular enough basis that she’s likely to have sex during that 2-3 day period every month. So then it is just a matter of whether or not one “slips by the goalie” and if it takes. Think about how many people you know having sex who are maybe slightly less than careful… it doesn’t seem that unlikely 🙂

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i always wonder that too! especially with teen moms etc. but then again they are at their most fertile so…..

well many many more people conceive (as in union between egg and sperm) than that but its some crazy number – like 75% – of conceptions are spontaneously aborted during the first 4-6 weeks, often before you even know you’re pregnant. this is because of chromosomal abnormalities and other issues that make it not viable. especially as you get older and have fewer eggs, not every age is up to standard (as opposed to the teen moms who may have a perfect egg ready every month). idk. thats what i was told. i definitely think its partly luck and partly other factors.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I was wondering the same the other day but I’ve also read that sperm can survive for a few days after intercourse so even if ovulation is a few days after, there could still be a baby on the way without timing it to that 2-3 day timeframe…

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

Some people’s cycles aren’t “normal” so they probably have a hard time figuring out when they’re ovulating. And if it’s a surprise, they probably weren’t paying attention or know their bodies well enough to know if they’re ovulating.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

also i have an iPhone app and it puts giant hearts on 3 days for “high fertility” and then smaller hearts on the 2 days before and after as “fertile days.” so i think those 2-3 are most fertile but there is a range of when the egg is travelling down the tubes…

i always just thought it was weird that BC pills etc basically say you can get pregnant ANYTIME even if you miss just 1 pill in the final week of your cycle. i think its partially to scare you but then also it apparently happens.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Your body also produces hormones and physical changes that make you WANT to have sex right when you are at your most fertile (even if you don’t know it). So you have to figure that some people are having more sex during those fertile days, and less sex on non-fertile days.  For a good example, think of all the people who prefer not have sex during their period. That alone wipes out about 25% of the days each month.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’ve been doing a lot of reading in my first 2 months of TTC : )

The most important details: sperm can live for up to 5 days, the egg for 12-48 hours depending

That’s the weirdest thing for me…that you don’t get pregnant right when you have sex…it happens hours to days later.

I also read that no matter how long your cycle is, you usually ovulate 14 days before your period.  The first half of your cycle may be longer or short than 14, but the second half is pretty standard (IF you are ovulating).  So if you wait till you ovulate to have sex, the window is pretty short.

I know I didn’t cite my sources, but I’m very careful and skeptical when reading, so this info was pretty well backed up.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

i seriously do not know how they have a “accident” i have been off birthcontrol for a year and havent had my accident yet… so now that the wedding is over I will be charting and trying..

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

Don’t forget those small % of us who WERE on birth control and the birth control method failed.  Some of them are 97-98% effective.  I was one of the 2% of women that had my babies, despite being on a birth control method. I wouldn’t trade them for the world though!  🙂

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I always wondered this because I know people who have had multiple “surprises” and I know SO many people who have had a “surprise.”  But I agree with those who said that if you’re in a relationship where sex at least a few times per week is normal and you’re less than careful, I can see how it would happen.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Even with perfect use, birth control isn’t 100%. The only thing that’s 100% is to not have sex.

I know quality control is better now than it was 30 years ago, but my sister was born because my mom got birth control pills from a bad batch. She knows it was the pills failing because she lived in a small town at the time and there were several women, all on the same kind of pill from the same doctor, that ended up pregnant within a few months of each other.

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