(Closed) Concerned…

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@graygodess20:  Well I am not sure what you can do except keep your fingers crossed. I think 1/3 pregnancies end in miscarriage (I read that somewhere recently) so hopefully hers will be ok.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I had a friend who did this. Unfortunately, she lost the baby and had to write a post on FB telling everyone.

Ultimately, everyone makes the decision that’s right for them. Just be praying that everything works out fine and she never has to regret her decision to tell people so early.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

In my opinion, it’s a bad idea to tell ANYONE about a pregnancy that early, let alone one’s entire facebook friends list… I think it’s better to wait until further along. A miscarriage can be hard on anyone who would have been hoping and wishing for that baby, such as potential future grandparents, aunts, and uncles. I think it is more considerate to not drag people unnecessarily along on the potential rollercoaster of the more uncertain first few months of a pregnancy. Anything can happen at any time, sure, but statistically speaking, most miscarriages happen within the first 12 weeks. Sharing pregnancy news after 12 weeks is best. Not like she can do anything about it now, and there is no point in bringing it up of course. She seems like an attention-seeker. Seriously, sharing with everyone that early just lacks class… just smile and congratulate her, even though in your head you’ll be thinking “congratulations (hopefully)!” 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

 

@araneidae:  She seems like an attention-seeker. Seriously, sharing with everyone that early just lacks class.

 

Or maybe she’s just really excited.  I think that is a huge leap of judgement.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@DrTeeth:  or maybe both? Sorry if I offended. It’s just my opinion, certainly not the most kind-hearted thing I’ve ever thought. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Has the OP ever been pregnant? If not, perhaps you can’t understand the joy and elation that comes with seeing that big fat positive. Some people are extremely cautious and wait until they’re in the ‘safe zone’. Others tell everyone immediately without hesitation. Honestly I don’t think it’s your place to say what’s right for your friend. You should just be supportive and optimistic that her pregnancy will be a safe and healthy one. I waited until I was 12 weeks before I announced the news to Facebook. I told close friends and my family before this. But then a few days after telling everyone the good news, I miscarried. You can never really be 100% certain your pregnancy will work out the way you hope. So whether you announce it at 4 weeks, 12 weeks or when the baby is born, it’s a personal choice that’s dependant on each person and I really don’t think it’s anyone else’s place to judge.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I am sure she is just SUPER excited (especially if this is her first) although I have no children so I don’t know those feelings but I agree its really early on to be telling EVERYONE. If it was me, I would probably be so excited about it that I would tell a few close people like my parents, his parents, and MAYBE my closest 2 girlfriends. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We have a friend that announced it on Facebook at about 5 weeks. We are due in June (13 1/2 weeks along and havent announced it on facebook yet) and she is 5 weeks behind us. They live a pretty risqué life style and this wasn’t planned, but im trying to hope for the best. I’m worried incase she miscarries, but it’s her first and she probably didn’t know she should wait. I cringe every time I see her name pop up on Facebook afraid it will be bad news. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It’s nice that you are concerned but there is really nothing you can do. Some people wait some don’t. Our first pregnancy we told everyone right away. This one we are being more cautious. Just close family and a few friends til we get closer to 12 weeks. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Not trying to be harsh towards op at all, but I see posts like these often, and can’t help but think who cares? Everyone does something on fb that someone thinks is crazy, wrong, etc. But, we can’t lose sleep over it. I agree with what someone else says that if you’ve never been pregnant, and even if you have maybe they just can’t contain their joy and elation. It’s their life, and sometimes while it’s great we’re genuinely concerned for them, we just have to let them live it. Smile One girl on fb got flack for posting early and what she said was she takes each day a day at a time, and doesn’t want to live in fear or be silent about the gift from God growing within her for one second. Now, I don’t believe you’re living in fear for waiting, but neither are people not making smart decisions if they chose not to wait imo!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@graygodess20:  I think you need to mind your own business. Its nice that you’re concerned but its a woman’s own choice when she reveals her pregnancy and isn’t up to you to judge. It would be awful if something happened to her and I hope it doesn’t for her sake but maybe she wants the support of those in her life if she ends up needing it. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@graygodess20:  I agree with you…it makes me cringe when I hear someone announce so early that they’re pg.  One FB friend literally posted on FB as soon as she peed on a stick, “Just found out we are having a baby!”  I guess these kind of people probably wouldn’t mind sharing a loss publicly too, if it came down to it.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We didn’t go “Facebook” public with our news right away, but I did tell close family and a few friends.  My thought was that if something did happen, I had only told the people I would need to lean on if things went badly.  So, I don’t think a brand new pregnancy needs to be kept under lock and key or top secret highly classified, but I do think it’s wise to exercise some discretion when sharing the news.  But, you know what they say, opinions are like assholes…

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

This happened with a friend recently.  She already has a 3.5 year old.  She took a picture of her 3.5 year with a sign that said, “Soon to be Big Sister – August 2013” (this was a couple of weeks ago) and put it on facebook – putting her at about 4 weeks.

I understand she was excited, but I do think it’s a little irresponsible telling your 3.5 year old that early.  If something happens – that’s a VERY hard thing to have to explain to a child that young.  All she’s going to hear is, “you’re not going to have a sister/brother anymore”.

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