- 6 months ago
- Wedding: August 2018
A week ago I learned that I may have been duped by the advertising of the company we went with for my e-ring. One of the most important things to me was ethical sourcing of the diamond and the metal, which is why we spent a lot of money on a setting and diamond that probably would have cost less overall elsewhere. Now I have learned that the company was recently called out for possible scamming and selling of blood diamonds. I am beyond devastated.
Aside from the ethical concern, the setting concerns me of late. It is a petite twisted vine setting, and while the average width of the band is 2.3 mm, the micro pace is actually on only one of two “vines”, or close to 1 mm. Over time I fear that the diamonds are going to fall out having been set in something so thin. Also, it appears that the setting turns to yellow gold very quickly, which really looks strange on my super pale skin. I had gotten it rhodium played only a month ago, and I swear it is yellowing again.
For the past week I have been fantasizing about returning (probably not possible) or exchanging it with another jeweler for a solitaire set on a very simple platinum, plain band. I spoke with my fiancé, and he was sad about the idea of me getting a new ring. Understandably so, I feel the same. However a plain setting fits me better.
Overall, I feel pretty bummed out and let down. If ethical is a major concern, I know that a lab diamond or moissanite would be a recommended approach. But.. I really really wanted something from the earth. There must be a reputable company out there? Intuition tells me it will always be a gamble, but to be deceived outright. I certainly cannot prove my diamond and setting is a “blood diamond”, but these articles have scared me, and my diamond is definitely not from neutral territory like Canada. But what about the setting? Micropave on such a small width, and the yellowing so quickly… doomed to constant maintenance in the future?
So the question.. keep the ring, or make an exchange? It really is beautiful Bees, and I was so happy with it at first, but ever since discovering the controversy, being told my setting would not last because of the micropave and the yellowing, I am feeling so apprehensive and resentful towards what should be the symbol of a forever commitment between me and my fiancé.
Here is the ring. I welcome your great advice, both the good and the bad. I take feedback pretty well. Thanks.