- 4 years ago
Ok, normally I would never “meddle” in someone else’s relationship, but I am getting seriously concerned about one of my friends. I have known her since we were three. We grew up together through school and then she moved away after high school when she got married and I went to college. Though she moved across the country, we still maintain contact, visit each other and chat frequently.
She married at 18 and had her first child at 19. While her relationship developed rather quickly, they were a good couple…until his second deployment with army. When he returned, he showed clear signs of PTSD (lots of anger, anxiety, night terrors, etc). He punched holes in walls, made threats, became a recluse and was just not the same. Despite the new concerns, they proceeded to TTC a second child, and were successful. Well, then came his third deployment and things have only gotten worse.
In addition to her husband’s mental health issues, my friend is showing strange signs of paranoia and extreme thoughts within the past year. She repeatedly talks about “national security concerns,” how the government is a huge conspiracy, she bought a gun and is all about “looking out for the homeland.” She says she doesn’t like leaving the house often (she is a stay at home mom), but even when she thought about getting a job, her husband said no because it wasn’t “safe.”
In the 22 years I have known my friend, I have NEVER known her to be like this. While people change and grow, this is just so drastic and so quick. Thus far, we have had a few disagreements about politics (which I normally avoid), but I have yet to comment too much or offer relationship advice.
But with the increase in paranoia and the apparent worsening of his condition (which he refuses to seek counseling), I am getting more concerned. Fortunatley, he has never harmed her or his two children (or that she has mentioned). Should I say something to her? *sorry for the italics, the bee won’t let me undo it.