Concerned about kids during wedding

posted 2 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d just leave it alone.  It’s not on you to provide entertainment for their children, who you have graciously invited to celebrate your day with you.  As parents, they should have a good idea of how their children behave and if this is a suitable place to take the kids.  In the end, it’s the parents decision if the kids should be there and their responsibility to ensure that they behave – not yours. 

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

I wouldn’t explicitly say to them that the atmosphere isn’t child friendly, that could come across as you hinting that you don’t want the kids there. If they are aware that it’s a formal, sit down meal then that’s all the information they need to assess the situation and how suitable it is for them and their kids.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

They already know there will be no other children present. Even if there were, a wedding in a fancy restaurant is not a play yard or gym for the children. It’s the parents’ responsibility at all times to ensure their children behave appropriately for the venue /occasion. That often means bringing toys for quiet play at the table.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Could you provide a couple of coloring books and crayons so the kids are a little bit entertained and have something to keep them focused while they’re in their seats?

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

I agree with julies1949 :  based on who is invited and where the wedding is held, they should be able to put two and two together that it won’t be the most child friendly atmosphere. It’s not very fair for them to be annoyed that no other children are invited to your very small intimate wedding so they need to get over that (and maybe they were just disappointed rather than annoyed?). At least you are accommodating them if they want to bring them – many people don’t even do that. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I think it depends on the kid. There are special crayon types meant for small kids so that they’re easier to grip (triangular shaped crayons or sphere shaped ones). I know some kids that liked scribbling (not so much coloring) at that age. But others just aren’t into it.

I actually wouldn’t worry too much about the 1 year old wanting to run. The 3 year old will need more to keep them happy in their seat. And most likely the parents will have some toys as well that they carry around to keep the kids entertained.

Post # 11
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3492 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

You provided your guests with all the information they needed to determine the style of reception you’re having. There is nothing else you need to do. It is up to them to monitor and entertain their own children.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

mikaylaauel :  Good news: this isn’t a problem. I assume your invitations provided the name and address for the venue. It’s up to the parents to check it out and see if they want to bring their kids or not, and if they need to bring some kind of entertainment or not. Anyone who would be pissed that you’re not hiring a bounce-house or something at your nice restaurant wedding reception (for a grand total of 2 children!) is ridiculous and not someone you should be catering to. Don’t give it another though. I wouldn’t even bother with crayons. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee

Maybe a little portable DVD player or iPad with videos the kids could watch would be a good idea but most parents would have that for their kids these days. Will there be food for the kids? I wouldn’t stress though. They are being very rude and most parents knowing the venue for the wedding will come prepared with entertainment and snacks for the kids or they would organise a babysitter. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Don’t stress over this. It’s up to the parents to entertain their children unless they’re attending a children’s party. TBH those people will probably leave early when their kids get fussy or bored. 

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