(Closed) Concerned About “Let Down”?

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Are you concened about being "let down" with your proposal?

    Absolutley not!

    Maybe just a little, but I don't let it consume me.

    I worry about it all the time...

    OP is a horrible person - I can't believe she'd even have these thoughts!!

  • Post # 17
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    Sugar bee
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    @bookworm88:He did that to me when it came. I was disappointed.

     

    Honestly though as long as he asks, it’s awesome. Really. Awesome.

    Even if it doesn’t live up to the expectations he’s building for it, it’s awesome. I promise!

    Post # 18
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    Sugar bee

    I’m worried because my S.O didn’t even wrap my Christmas gifts and is horrible about keeping a surprise. Planning just ain’t his thang
    ETA: I put, a little worried but I don’t really care.  I honestly don’t

     

    Post # 20
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    @ellabee:

    Holy Sh*T!  I would have flipped my lid! lol! But it ended up okay!

     

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    @FlutterbyBee:

    I think you’re bang on with that :p

    Post # 21
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    Helper bee

    I’m not concerned at all about being let down. I want it to be a surprise but I told my SO that I didn’t need some grand proposal with fireworks and stuff. I trust him with my life about this. I don’t think I’ll be disappointed in anyway. I know he’ll do something sweet and loving. 

     

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    @FlutterbyBee: I don’t think you are a horrible person at all! I totally can understand where you are coming from. I hope whatever happens you enjoy it!

    Post # 23
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    @Oneeleven:Don’t worry, this time the simple words, “will you marry me” can make up for any short falls.

    And just… pretend that’s as much as you’ll get. Then you won’t be let down. Well, I’m only 90% sure of that.

     

     

    Post # 24
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

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    @FlutterbyBee:I’m a control freak, too. I understand. It drove me nuts. You should see some of bat sh#t crazy early posts. I was *freaking* out waiting.

    It gets better eventually, even if he never proposes, you’ll still end up married, right? Isn’t that the important part?

    Post # 25
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

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    @Wonderwoman217: You are not a horrible person at all! I think more girls think this than would like to openly admit! I worried about my proposal and what type of ring my now Fiance would pick for me. My Fiance wanted his proposal to be complete surprise so he never asked me what type of ring I would like (hence I had no input towards his purchase).  

    My Fiance did a more than perfect job planning a perfect candlight dinner on the beach in the Dominican Republic. The ring he gave to me was nothing what I expected (he received the wrong advice from a friend), but at that moment I was so overcome with shock and excitement that I didn’t really care what he proposed with. I ended up with a perfect engagement (in my mind) and close to perfect ring. I have to be realistic and say that I ended up keeping the diamond (b/c much more sentimental to me), but ended up exchanging my band b/c it was too big to fit my tiny finger and not really my style. My Fiance just didn’t mind at all and just wanted me to be comfortable with my ring. I’m still so happy that my proposal was a complete surprise and completely out of my control! 🙂

    I am sure your BF will plan an engagement that will be perfect for you just b/c it was the day you will look back on and say “he chose me that day to spend the rest of his life with”. I’m sure he will also choose a ring you will cherish. And if God forbid you don’t Lovvve the ring (like me) hopefully your BF will be as understanding as mine at let you exchange… realistic but sometimes needs to be done! Just letting you know there are options if it isn’t the perfect ring!

    Post # 26
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    @Demarca11: This is why I love this board. It really is a non-judgmental place where we can vent our concerns and frustrations. I totally agree-I think a lot more women our worried about the ring and proposal than would openly admit. It’s only natural

    Post # 27
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    Helper bee
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    @jackndiane: I just read your post above and wanted to provide you some reassurance about your upcoming proposal! My Fiance did not get down on one knee and my proposal was still super sweet and I wouldn’t have had it any other way. He was unable to carry the huge box to the beach where he proposed, so he only had the ring in his pocket (he was so nervous). At the end of dinner he reminisced about how our lives have been together and then reached across the table and slipped the ring on my finger… his proposal was sweet b/c it was genuine and unrehearsed. I thought I would have really wanted him down on one knee, but the situation at the time did not make sense for this scenario. I guarantee you won’t be disappointed with your proposal…each proposal is intimate and special between you and your SO and it will bring good memories! 🙂 Enjoy your time now b/c the built up anticipation and the unknown before the big proposal is something that you can only enjoy once.

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    @Wonderwoman217: i’m with you. i am much more concerned with not liking the ring. personally, i couldn’t care less HOW he proposes. it doesn’t matter to me whatsoever! but the ring, the ring i will be wearing for the rest of my life. on the slim chance i don’t like it, i guess i can always have the diamond reset in another style.

    Post # 29
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Answer: Absolutely not. My BF is unreal at planning things and giving gifts, and has fabulous taste. My chief worry is that I will blush to death and that would be sort of a damper on the ensuing festivities.

    Post # 30
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    @Demarca11: what a sweet story! Ok…so now I see that I am being silly about the down on one knee thing. As long as he puts thought into it and he seems to care then I will be elated. I think anything short of throwing the box at me (God, I hope he doesn’t do that) will be great

    Post # 31
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    @Oneeleven:PS I should have said this before, but thanks for letting me know I wasn’t alone in feeling totally crazy. That was eating me up for quite some time!

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    @Demarca11:Ditto, there are options if it isn’t the perfect ring. The ring he got had an I1 stone; lost confidence in the store and returned the whole thing. He ended up telling me to just pick a diamond I wanted in a certain price range and then we could set it in a replica setting. When I was searching for a diamond, I scrolled past the ring that is now *my ring* because he saw it and liked it.

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    @jackndiane:Ditto, how can you not be worried about this? My husband knows zero about jewelry and I’m obsessed with it. It would be like if I went out to by his video games for the next year without input. I would screw that up all kinds of ways and be led astray by salespeople with different taste than his!

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    @Demarca11:Aww your proposal is so romantic!

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    @Impatiently waiting: 🙂 Don’t worry about the ring. If you really hate it there are ways to help him realize you want something else without ruining his self esteem. PM me for ideas. I have too many.

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    @LadyTegan: That is such a nice comment. You won’t blush to death, but you might smile until your face falls off. (just kidding)

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