- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
This may be slightly Too Much Information, but I am worried about my fiance and this does relate to our wedding and I am looking for advice from anyone who may have the same issues …
My fiance has had stomach problems his entire life — bloating, indigestion, gas, cramping, diarrhea — no matter what he eats. It’s gotten worse since he’s gotten older, and I believe a dr. he saw when he was a teenager told him he had a “sensitive stomach” and that was the end of that.
Since we’ve been together, I have noticed that his stomach bothers him a lot more when he is stressed or nervous. And it really seems to make no difference in what he eats or doesn’t eat. Sometime he can have spicy ethnic food and has no issues. A few weeks later, he can eat the same exact thing and have horrible problems, and vice versa.
I’m no dr., but I think he has IBS or a gluten allergy or something. The problem is, he won’t do anything about it. He won’t try taking a probiotic, he won’t monitor what he eats, and he won’t go to a dr. because he’s afraid they’re going to “stick a tube down his throat or up his ass.”
(WHY do men REFUSE to go to doctors?!?!?!?!)
So obviously I’m concerned about his health. But I am also worried about the nervous stomach thing for the wedding. He has some social anxiety and get sicks to his stomach when we are GUESTS at a wedding. At the last wedding we went to, he barely ate all day and he spent most of the time at the reception in the bathroom.
He admits that he’s nervous for our wedding because we will be the center of attention but says he does want to have a big party, etc. But I obviously don’t want him to have to, like, bolt to the bathroom in the middle of our vows or spend the entire reception in the mens room.
So do any of you have any ideas on what this problem may be or HOW I can convince him to see a damn doctor??